The question that concerns most of us should be, "what can I do to help?" Here are some steps you can take when you believe a friend or family member is in this situation.
One of the most common complaints that I hear from women about their male lovers is that they are just too genitally focused. It’s clear to me that many women want their men to make love more from the heart during sexual play. Many women use the term “sexual intimacy” to describe what they are looking for in sex. Sexual intimacy stimulates passion. Women seek a soulful experience in sexual love that relates to the heart as well as the genitals. Their craving for it is so deep that its absence insures her dissatisfaction at a deep, primal level.
Many of us today are called more than ever to be a Spiritual Messenger by using Spiritual principles in our everyday lives and work that embody the message of Spirit in the modeling of our life. This does not mean we are ever perfect! We are always a work in progress and each moment we have the opportunity to choose what we do.
For individuals who have suffered the pain of divorce, finding love again can be tremendously challenging. It isn't just the process of getting back into the dating game that is difficult – the heart and mind can create barriers that makes the searching process feel like walking through quicksand: getting nowhere fast.
We are living in extraordinary times right now and are all asked to step up and surrender at the same time. I have to be honest with you today. We are all struggling right now big time. I am in it too. Why is that and why is it important for you to know this and read this message?
A woman can never truly sexually compete with a man. There is no way she can recreate with a sex toy, or any other foreign object, the intimate process that creates a life. A woman will never be able to compete with or recreate the 4,000 pounds of pressure applied when a man is stroking up and down, round and round, in and out. It's the equivalent of trying to put a prosthetic leg in place of a real leg.
I had a blessed upbringing where I grew up listening to the wisdom of monks and gurus. I’m talking about the real deal here- the gurus that come from India and have given up all worldly possessions. They literally walk barefoot, with just a bowl and some smaller possessions. When a monk becomes a monk in India, they take a vow of giving up everything- money, possessions, and even their families. For food, they go from home to home, and are given food by the householders. This is seen as a MAJOR honor to serve food to a monk.
Gratitude is a simple practice with a powerful effect. Make gratitude your basic thought throughout the day. When you think with gratitude, you speak, move and vibrate with gratitude. The recipient of your gratitude becomes more loving, affection and happy. Try it out with your partner. As both a counselor and a human, I have seen this work wonders time and time again!
c. 2012 Susun S Weed (Expert) Author: Down There: Sexual & Reproductive Health the Wise Woman Way “Women can have intercourse with fire, or the steaming water of a cauldron, or with the wind.” Don Juan and the Art of Sexual Energy, Tunneshende, Bear, 2001.
I have worked with thousands of couples throughout the years. I have seen and heard it all. But when it comes down to relationships and marriages ending, there are really 5 basic reasons that exist. And while some marriages are better off coming to a close, most marriages could have been saved if the couple had only been able to shift these 5 things. Please share this information with others. It just might save their marriage.