It all started when I was a baby — this innate distrust of men. Out in public, I would find a random man, point my finger at him and scream like he was Jesus and I was crucifying him for all the possible crimes a man might commit against a woman. As if my pacifier was a crystal ball, I just knew. In kindergarten they chase you around the playground with sticks. In high school they ditch you right before the prom. By college, it's the not calling, the commitment dodging, and the general insensitivity. Then, if you're "lucky" you marry one ... just to have him cheat on you, and complain about you to the fellas.
Some women are surprised after an abortion that they have waves of crying spells, depression and sadness. This can last several weeks, months or even years. It is normal to grieve after an abortion, but the strange combination of relief and sadness can be very confusing.
When I was young(er), I think I might have been crazy. Although I didn't think so at the time, here's why I say this now, looking back: I was planning a visit to my dear friends in the midwest and the Husband offered to set me up with a guy they knew. I asked his Wife why she hadn't mentioned this guy to me before and she said something like, "well I'm not sure he's right for you". When I asked why she said "I think he threw his last girlfriend out a window!". Allegedly. It hadn't been proven and he wasn't arrested...but still.
Most people would love to have "real love," yet often they have no idea what real love is. Take a moment to think about how you would define real love. Defining love is like defining a particular color to a person who has never been able to see color - you have to feel it to know what it is. The reason it is hard to define real love is because you cannot experience it with your mind, and definitions are of the mind. Real love is of the heart, and is a feeling that is the result of your intention to BE LOVING.
Are you playing with the law of attraction and dating, getting frustrated with all the rules? Isn’t it strange how you hear advice from different teachers and they seem to contradict each other? I dove into the personal development to find the secret to love and found myself spinning from one teaching to another, getting confused as to what was the right path to follow. Throughout my twenty years of self-discovery, I finally realized that out of all I learned that following just ONE RULE is the key that never fails and always makes me empowered.
In our busy lives, online dating is the best chance many of us have to find a loving, lasting relationship. I should know — I used online dating for nearly a decade (!) as one of many paths to meeting my Mr. Wonderful. I learned a valuable lesson during my active dating years, namely that sustained effort is the path to success in all areas of life, including love. Whether your goal is marriage or meaningful companionship, venues like Match, eHarmony, Ourtime, and Zoosk are winning bets. Many people walk away and never reach their love goals online or anywhere else because they become fed up with the highs and lows that are inherent to online dating.
I know, you just want to get her back. It seems like it should be simple enough. After all, you won her heart over once before; why not just do it again? Well, the problem is that the first time around you were entering new territory with a clean slate. You had the thrill and excitement of discovering each other. Your likes, your dislikes, your dreams, and your passions were all discovered together for the first time.
No matter how badly you want to get your guy back into your life you cannot help but wonder when, if ever, it’s too late. Sure, your friends may be telling you to just move on with your life and forget about him. They may even be telling you that he’s not coming back because they have seen him out with his friends having a good time. Do you listen to these well meaning friends? Or, do you listen to the part of yourself that tells you what you had with him was the real thing?
As thoughts of deflating his tires whirled around in her head, something stopped her cold. “If I do this then he’ll know he got the best of me,” she thought. If you allow someone…anyone… to get the best of you- then what are you left with?
Maybe you’ve tried every strategy that you can think of to lure your ex boyfriend back into your arms and back into your life but it just doesn’t seem to be working. You have tried playing hard to get; you’ve tried obsessing over what he’s doing and calling every hour; you’ve showed up coincidentally at a location where you know he will be; you’ve “casually” inquired about his well being through your mutual friends; you’ve gotten angry; and you’ve gotten sad to the point that you call him up crying and begging him to come back.<