Are you suffering from the date-less-on - a Saturday night blues? Imagine the following scenario: The weekend is fast approaching and you are without a date. What will you do with yourself? Decide to rent a movie and watch it in bed with a bowl of snacks, just like you did last week, and the week before that? All your girlfriends are out with their boyfriends, so you won’t have them to call, and occupy your time, so you may as well stay home for the night, right ?
So, your divorce is final, and the realization of your new-found freedom came rushing up on you like a locomotive. That alone is a lot to adjust to. But once you've settled into your new status as a single woman, the next question isn't easy, either. How soon is too soon to start dating again?
It occurred to me one day that dating is one of the biggest adventures you could ever embark on. Think about it: You don’t have to fly 10,000 feet in the air, strap yourself to an all-too-perky instructor and his “trusty” parachute, and then jump out of a moving airplane to get an adrenaline rush. (Not that there’s anything wrong with that.)
Kimiko ran a large daycare and preschool facility where her own three young kids attended. After her divorce, she threw herself into her work and her children’s lives. She figured there was plenty of time to start dating once her children were in school full time. And she needed time to heal.
Does it ever feel like getting a date is nothing more than a pipe dream? If you’re like most women, your main objective in dating is to find a suitable companion that will truly appreciate you for who you are. Well the good news is that you don’t have to change everything about yourself and surrender your dignity just to get a date. Well in fact, getting asked out on dates doesn’t have to be difficult at all.
If laughter is the best medicine, Mary Ellen was seriously overdosing. She had always had a habit of laughing when she was nervous, and first dates were nothing if not a hugely nerve-wracking experience. “I laughed too hard at their jokes, and I giggled inappropriately,” she recalls. On one date she’ll never forget, she laughed out loud when her date told her about his dog getting hit by a car. “I can’t explain it,” she winces.
If you’ve ever seen any type of dating advice about how to make someone feel special on a date, the advice is usually geared toward guys who want to make a woman feel special. But what about the woman who wants to go out of her way to make her man feel special? Men love validation just as much, if not more than women, and it is important to show him that you appreciate him. Here are the ABCD’s of making him feel as special as he makes you feel.
Women as a whole are givers. We give throughout the year, not just over the holidays. We take care of our households and do everything we can for our children. We bend over backwards for our colleagues and friends. Some of us even give to strangers, volunteering our time and money to help those less fortunate.
It’s been said that if you’ll love yourself, no one else will, either. Maybe that’s not quite true, but when it comes to falling in love, it certainly is true that you will have an easier time of it — and will be much more likely to find lasting, true love — if you love yourself BEFORE you try to find that “special someone.”