News Flash: Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are divorcing. Many stories have indicated that Katie filed the divorce papers secretly, and Tom was blindsided with the news. Many people are asking why. While I don't know Katie and her reasons for using this tactic, I have talked to many women over the years and have witnessed multiple reasons to be secretive and careful when considering divorce.
Limboland- we've all heard the phrase "I'm in limbo". But what exactly does it mean? Limbo is frequently used to describe a temporary state- a lack of movement either forwards or backwards. In life, and in relationships, one thing is certain- being in limbo is darn uncomfortable.
The remaining couples that do hang on more than half of them live in sexless marriages. What is a sexless marriage? It can be defined as a marriage where the couple has little to no sex every month, or several months. This is not due to an illness or sudden event but a natural rhythm that happens over time in a marriage. There are a few main causes for sexless marriages and it can happen gradually overtime.
One New Years Eve my cousin and I went to our favorite spot, Tiffany’s, a rather “happening” club in 1980's Washington, DC where we’d always met our share of interesting men and had numerous nights of fun. Our hair was styled perfectly and in an attempt to snag our future husbands (Oh, God, please!), we had blown our paychecks on designer fashions. We were, in essence, two fine, irresistible women.
People often go into marriage thinking that their past sexual pattern or way of having sex somehow vanishes. That is because the sex is new and fun in the relationship and that the past sexual pattern will not matter, but it does. As we get older and have more sexual partners, ways of masturbating, we get into a sexual pattern that we may not even realize and this pattern will eventually come out in the marriage. The best case scenario is that the sexual pattern can be shared with your spouse working it into the love making.
Are you dateable or mateable? You'll love dating when you identify your dating goals and honor them as you choose the best people to date. Let's walk you through the process. What are your dating goals? How do they help you choose your best dates? If you seek instant intimacy in a casual fling, then your best date will share these goals and will not expect a serious relationship to develop. You are dateable, not mateable, unless your dating goals change. If you seek a healthy, happy relationship with lasting love, you are mateable.
Friends with benefits (FWB) have gotten a lot of media coverage and attention over the past few years and with that have definitely being an ever growing type of relationship. This type of extended friendship can be risky, but if you follow these DOs and DONTs, I promise that your friendship will be as solid as ever and the sex with be great.
My best friend who lives in Southern Florida is in her early 50’s and is ready to start dating again after losing a partner to a brain tumor. She mentioned to me that she is frustrated with the singles scene since she says the singles events and Meetups she attends are almost 70% women. She feels it’s very competitive and if there is a decent guy, all the women are vying for his attention.
I recently talked to a client of mine who has been online dating. She had been connecting with several very interesting men who she thought were very promising and was excited to learn more about them and to start the “Relationship Exploration” process (aka dating). The emails were going back and forth wonderfully, excitement was building… and then suddenly, they disappeared on her. All three of them. Just stopped emailing. MIA.
There's an old question that asks if it is really possible for a man and a woman to be friends and remain friendly without becoming romantically involved. In modern times this question was the basis for a classic romantic comedy film released in 1989 - When Harry Met Sally - but it didn't start there, of course.