The most effective way to set your dating deal breakers or non-negotiables in what you’re looking for in a relationship is to set your intention solo or with the help of a dating coach like Marni. This week plan to take an hour or two to get clear on what you’re really looking for in a long-term partner. The big question when you’re determining dating dealbreakers is deciding how to set your non-negotiables.
By Terri Trespicio for GalTime.com You've got dealbreakers. We all do. But what should be just a few hard-and-fast, values-driven rules about who you will and will not associate with, let alone date, has gotten a little out of hand. Curly hair? Dealbreaker. Have kids? Dealbreaker. Don't have kids? Dealbreaker.
By Jane Greer, Ph.D., Relationship & Sex Talk for GalTime.com From the outside, Ryan Gosling probably seems like a flawless boyfriend – there’s certainly no denying that he’s a handsome star. But maintaining a relationship, as he and Eva Mendes have done for well over a year, requires so much more than that.
We hear it all day long screaming from Shape Magazine and Cosmo. We hear it on the radio all day long. We see and hear the messages all day long when we watch the news or prime time t.v. We are not smart enough. We are not rich enough. We do not have 6 pack abs. We are not thin or athletic enough. Our boobs are too big. Our boobs are too small. You name it, we hear it and see it all day long. (Another blog I wrote called "Are you too fat to wear lingerie? Hell No!")
One of the questions I was most frequently asked after my divorce was, "Are you dating?" I'd shake my head and answer I was too busy with the kids, barely had enough time for myself let alone a date or that I wasn't ready. After a while, I knew all that wasn't true. The truth was I was scared. I'd been with my husband for twenty years, I had no clue how to start dating. I didn't enjoy dating the first time around and I didn't want to go through that again.
Sexual attraction is one of those things that we all want to feel with our partners. There is nothing like that electrical current that draws two people together like magnets. But when it comes to the overall success and failure of long-term relationships, how important is that attraction when compared to deep friendship between partners?
When you begin settling into your new life as a divorced woman, you will start mingling with other singles and eventually begin dating. Many women struggle with what and how much to tell their dates.
The music pulsed, throbbing itself into the core of my veins and brains. The light was minimal, erratic. The crowd fought its way through one another, only to find more of itself. The smell of sweaty dance floor and alcohol filled the air, with the occasional tinge of marijuana or vomit.
Picked up a cat-’o-9-tails, tied yourself to a whipping post, and just started whipping yourself silly lately? Ya know, the scourge of I-can’t-do-itness. Or the club of I’m-a-failure. Or the rod of nobody-likes-me. The whip of not-good-enoughness is one of my personal favorites. (more...)