When we are in a relationship, we begin to assume a “knowingness” of each other. We know what they like to eat, like to wear, and familiar quotations. Sometimes couples even begin finishing each other’s sentences, if not aloud then often to themselves. They begin meeting less for lunch because, let’s face it, they know each other. What more is there to say? They begin filling their calendar with meetings, schedules of others. It’s their job, they tell themselves, and the family depends on me to make money, so I need to keep networking.
Would the prince have chosen Cinderella to marry if she was a miserable young woman? If her stepsisters were beautiful but miserable, would he have chosen either of them? Are you living under the delusion that when you meet your soul mate you will finally be happy - that your misery is because you are not in a relationship or not in the right relationship? If this is you, you might be interested in what I have discovered in my 43 years of counseling individuals and couples.
In fifth grade the title of our social studies text book was People Need People. When I consider all the lesson I’ve learned about friendship over the years the title might well have read Girlfriends Need Girlfriends. Because most women are polite and loving they rarely say things that seem like a collective slam on the sisterhood, but the truth will set us all free. And the truth is, at their finest women are nurturing, resilient, warm, brilliant beings that can support each other through anything.
Demi likely got a nasty surprise when the papers outed Ashton’s rumored wild night in a hot tub recently. Why was it a shock? Because Demi wasn’t there. Unless they have an open arrangement, they are going to have to do a lot of work to repair their marriage from the hurt, deceit and embarrassment caused by this scandal. While your relationship may not be making headline news, women across the world will have to plow through the same trials that Demi may soon go through, after finding out that their partner has betrayed them.
When I was 19 years old I remember looking at a couple in the mall, walking hand in hand. She was a Plain Jane and he was a Chubby Charlie. As they gleefully passed me by on the escalator I secretly wondered, “What could such a boring looking couple be so darn happy about?” I felt bad for them and wondered had they ever known the kind of pulsating excitement that can only be delivered compliments of a bad boy or girl. Back in those days if a guy didn’t have an edge, I wasn’t interested.
Dear Dr Tammy, My husband works a lot and doesn’t get home from work until late in the evenings. I have an office in the house and take care of the kids. At night we are both exhausted and many times fall asleep in front of the TV. We used to have a great sex life. But we seem to be drifting apart. I’m getting resentful, and I worry about our relationship. Thanks for your help, Desperate in Dallas
Have you been through a break up lately? Did you leave your boyfriend or is it the other way around? Have you thought about getting together again? If you answer YES to that last question, here are some things you need to know before you try to get your ex boyfriend back. 1. Who broke up with who?
By Meagan McCrary I’m not sure who first came up with the concept of being selected versus being selective when it comes to relationships, but my co-author (and former roommate), Natasha Burton, brought it to my attention a few years ago when I was going through I very rough patch in my dating career. Talk about an ah-ha moment of clarity. Seemingly simple, to me, the concept was profound.
Newsflash. Kat Von D. has called off her engagement to Jesse James…AGAIN! Wow. I am so surprised. I can’t imagine why getting engaged to a man who is a known adulterer who lives halfway across the country didn’t lead to a trip down the aisle. I’m as surprised by this as I am that President Obama didn’t fix the healthcare problem in our country. You see, if you pay attention in life, you will find it easy to see the patterns.
One of the seemingly most common trip-ups in dating is that the two people in the so-called relationship have differing opinions about what kind of relationship they're in. Invariably, someone's feelings get hurt because expectations are different from what is actually being delivered. She thinks they're BF-GF, and he thinks they're just "friends"...with a really loose definition of what a friend is. This happens a lot. Here's a way to make it happen less, a way to tell if the guy is serious about you: