The key to improving one's social love life, whether dating or in a relationship, is to treat it like any other important project. Determine your long-term social/dating goals. Break each goal down into specific, measurable, attainable, relevant objectives. Select activities that can accomplish your objectives.
Find us a long-term relationship that's never experienced conflict, and we'll check the sky for flying pigs. The feelings of anger and disappointment we feel when a loved one seemingly wrongs us can be consuming, even uncontrollable. But anyone who's lost his/her temper can tell you: getting angry and getting revenge never pay off; they never make us feel better, in the long run.
There are endless traits and behaviors that are emblematic of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Most of us know what they are (even if we forget to practice them!), such as listening to one another, laughing together, using humor (especially during arguments), having regular sex, going on dates, etc. There are 9 habits that couples who have truly awesome relationships have in common.
If you want to bring new long lasting love into your life you have to make room for it. This means letting go of that relationship you know is not working. If you are fanning a dying flame by playing that special music, ogling online, and revisiting the fantasy just because it's BTN (better than nothing), you are robbing yourself of a new, exciting opportunity.
If what we really want from our relationship is love and connection then becoming proficient in the language and practice of forgiveness is crucial to our well-being and the longevity of our love. Holding a grudge, being critical and shaming—no matter how justified we feel—is not going to bring us the warm, loving connection we desire. Three YourTango Experts dive into the concept of forgiveness in relationships: what it looks like, what it's not, why it's important and how to start doing it.
Ah, the holidays. Families gather; cold weather prevails; light dwindles; routines are rearranged, yet good cheer is generally expected. The time of year that can be a source of great pleasure can also bring a good amount of pressure. Love Buzz asked Rochester, NY-based psychiatrist, Dr. Alice Tariot, to help us understand holiday season stress and give us some tips on how to help ourselves and our partners effectively manage it.