Lately, there’s a HUGE divide in family relationships and everyone is talking about it. It could be your siblings, your children your parents and even your friends. Well, you get the idea. Inherent in basically every relationship is you think that the other person just innately understands what you expect from them, and the same is true visa-versa.
EXPECTATIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS
One of the most challenging issues I confront in people who seek my help is perfectionism. These are people with very high standards who continually work to meet their goals-admirable qualities most would agree. When it is extreme, however, the relentless pursuit of achievement can lead to a great deal of misery for the individual and for the people in their lives. SIGNS OF A PERFECTIONIST
Dating is already hard enough. Bringing baggage and dumping it on your partner can be ever harder for that person. With these five tips, you can realize whether or not you are bringing baggage into your new relationship and perhaps get a new outlook on relationships. before its too late.
Valentine’s Day is approaching, and love is in the air. But did you know that love means different things to different people? When Don says, “I love you,” he may be thinking about how hot the sex is. When Marcia hears these words, she may think, “Wow! He’s committed to me.” In a dating relationship, it’s super important to unearth secret expectations and wants. You want to please each another, but it’s dangerous to assume you know what pleases someone. They may not feel comfortable telling you straight out.
It is easy to lose focus of what’s important when the stores are filled with Valentine’s Day cards, gifts, and chocolates. We worry about being single, breaking up, and how to celebrate in a new relationship. Instead of focusing on your relationship status or the perfect Valentine’s date, remember the following tips. They’ll keep you focused on the important things in life, on Valentine’s Day and every day.
Like Ram Dass says: You want to see how together you are, go spend some time with your family! This sentiment is particularly apt during the holidays, when emotions run high and painful memories are easily triggered. Especially if this holiday things are different than you would like them to be: i.e. you’re single (again), newly divorced, bringing someone home your family can’t stand, or maybe you simply dread the same old story your family dynamics dose on when you get together.
I hear singles complain about the hardships of dating and being lonely. They will blame everybody else for not living up to their expectations, but the reality is that they have closed themselves off to many possibilities by failing to be flexible with their preferences. Newsflash! This is the type of B.S that will keep you single!
Aside from being a relationship expert in private practice, I also teach at a local university. Recently, I had the opportunity to teach a class on Relationships and Marriage. A great deal of the material is devoted to providing proper expectations. One of the students said that she felt the course should be mandatory for all college students. I believe many of us in the field would agree with her.
Dearest Ne-Yo, I used to like you. “Miss Independent” was once my personal anthem, and I sang it loud and proud, feeling each word with every fiber of my being. “Cause she walk like a boss/Talk like a boss/Manicured nails to set the pedicure off/She’s fly effortlessly….” You CLEARLY knew what you were talking about.
Have you ever dated someone who is always on the go? Maybe they were focused on their career, worked long hours or travelled a lot for work. Whatever the case may be, they had a full schedule and finding time to go on a date with them seems virtually impossible. Before you count them out, here are some things you might want to take into consideration. When the economy tanked, the job market became unbelievably competitive. It caused a lot of people to shift their priorities and the mindset became to find a job, keep a job or become an entrepreneur.
So you’re dating someone new. He’s great. You think to yourself, “What an awesome man! He seems to be perfect for a wonderful in a relationship.” And then you start forecasting the relationship. You become a relationship forecaster, where you just want and need something so bad that you forget to remain present. And what happens? You end up getting disappointed a year later, two years later, whatever it might be.
It happens when you least expect it. That’s what they say anyway. But I was always expecting it. And it still happened for me. It didn’t happen how I expected it. I met my husband on the street. When I was single, I had opened a dating Café with the idea in mind that necessity is the mother of invention. I had imagined that the right guy would just walk through the doors one day. But it wasn’t happening. So I set out to look outside my Café and take matters into my own hands. I met my husband within 2 weeks of that.
Two weeks ago, I wrote an article entitled, 5 Love Lessons Men Can Learn From Christian Grey. It received many comments, mainly from men angry I didn’t address what women can do to improve relationships. I had always intended to write an article for women and here it is.
The process of finding a mate is one of the most dominant and powerful forces in our lives. It is also one of the most daunting and overwhelming tasks. Part of the problem is that we make a lot of allowances for the behaviors of our potential mates. We compromise, we give in, we negotiate, all against our better judgment, thus ending up in situations in which we are unhappy and unsatisfied.
What Women Don’t Know About Men: Part Three In this segment I’ll be discussing a certain “type” of Men. • The sort of men who are engaged in self-reflection. • The sort of men who take seminars and workshops to better themselves and their relationships. • The sort of men who understand the importance of listening.