When trust is damaged there is a powerful, sometimes overwhelming feeling of betrayal. The betrayal can come from almost any form of dishonesty or disloyalty of one partner to the other. Obviously infidelity stacks up at the top of the list but lying and hiding important information can also cause trust to fragment.
Let’s talk about life nowadays. It’s crazy, isn’t it? We all have to-do lists a mile long and we are constantly being pulled in different directions by our careers, spouses, children, and other responsibilities. What’s the result? - a world full of tightly-wound, super-efficient, multitasking mamas. That’s fine for a while, but over time the stress builds on us. Our efficiency and heroics become less important as our health declines, our relationships suffer, and our mindset becomes downright depressing. We know we should slow down.
Lately, there’s a HUGE divide in family relationships and everyone is talking about it. It could be your siblings, your children your parents and even your friends. Well, you get the idea. Inherent in basically every relationship is you think that the other person just innately understands what you expect from them, and the same is true visa-versa.
Dating is already hard enough. Bringing baggage and dumping it on your partner can be ever harder for that person. With these five tips, you can realize whether or not you are bringing baggage into your new relationship and perhaps get a new outlook on relationships. before its too late.
Among so many articles about work life balance, this one in HBR, the Imperfect balance between work and life caught my attention today. The main idea is 1. Pick few things that really need your focus 2. Delegate or let go others, and 3. Most importantly, embrace imperfection.
When do you expect too much of yourself? Do you ever expect too little? I have no experience expecting too little of myself, but would be curious about others’ experiences with that. (How about a comment after you read this?) How do your expectations play out? What childhood lessons contributed to that? If you had no expectations from others, did that lead to having few for yourself?
For many people, feeling disappointed on or after Valentine’s Day is just as predictable as the Presidents’ Day Sales. One of the reasons is that we have a multitude of beliefs about romance, subconscious ideas about our self-worth, childhood recollections of how this holiday was spent, assumptions about how it should be spent, ideas about romance and just about anything else you could dream up with a bit of imagination and the help of your girlfriends’ diaries of Valentine’s Day Disappointments.
There's a new book out about love, sex, and relationships called The Normal Bar. It's likely to be a best seller because most of us tend to be curious about how we are doing in the bedroom. We wonder if we are normal. Do other people feel like they don't have time for sex? Do other women get easily distracted during sex? Do other people feel like they have to beg their partner for sex?"
Valentine’s Day is approaching, and love is in the air. But did you know that love means different things to different people? When Don says, “I love you,” he may be thinking about how hot the sex is. When Marcia hears these words, she may think, “Wow! He’s committed to me.” In a dating relationship, it’s super important to unearth secret expectations and wants. You want to please each another, but it’s dangerous to assume you know what pleases someone. They may not feel comfortable telling you straight out.
If you’re like many women, Valentine’s Day can be tricky; it’s a big deal for you, and your man somehow blows it more often than he gets it “right”. How can you deal with this annual dance of angst leading up to February 14th, so often followed by hurt, angry, disappointed or resentful feelings afterwards?
Our favorite glasses wearing, junk food loving, nerd-chic heroine has officially taken her bow. And after seven years of laughs, what better way to pay tribute to the comic 30 Rock series than to take a trip down Liz Lemon’s romantic memory lane. The show paved the way for some new funny girl’s like Zooey Dechanel’s quirky Jess and Mindy Kalling’s adorably disheveled Mindy. So in Tina Fey’s immortal words, “Ain’t no party like a Liz Lemon party cause a Liz Lemon party is mandatory.”
It is easy to lose focus of what’s important when the stores are filled with Valentine’s Day cards, gifts, and chocolates. We worry about being single, breaking up, and how to celebrate in a new relationship. Instead of focusing on your relationship status or the perfect Valentine’s date, remember the following tips. They’ll keep you focused on the important things in life, on Valentine’s Day and every day.
What does raising the bar look like for you? What expectations do you have for your children? Setting high expectations is a good thing, as long as the bar isn't out of reach. Some of the students I teach have trouble with organization and keeping track of assignments. Meetings with parents of middle schoolers and guidance sometimes result in a long list of things the child is supposed to accomplish or master.
How often have you heard a woman (you?) state, with a sigh, that all the good men are taken? It’s been my observation that the women who believe that are the only ones who are experiencing that…so what’s going on here? If you're attracting less than great men into your life, it's very likely that it’s got more to do with you than them. Here are four reasons why that may be true for you. 1. You Get What You Expect
What does raising the bar look like for you? What expectations do you have for your children? Setting high expectations is a good thing, as long as the bar isn't out of reach. Some of the students I teach have trouble with organization and keeping track of assignments. Meetings with parents of tweens and guidance sometimes result in a long list of things the child is supposed to accomplish or master.