In our recent Break Up With Your Ex survey, we found that after nostalgia and fear of being alone, the most common reason people don't move on from their exes is because of the sex. Since so many of us have made this horrible mistake, we logged onto the world of social media to see what lessons were learned from banging your ex, if anything at all.
Would you consider venturing out into a blizzard to pick up a bottle of wine a particularly good idea? Would you do it anyway? I would … depending how bored I was or how the rest of my stock was looking. Let's face it: sometimes the ends (feeling all warm and cozy) justify the means (putting yourself at risk for a frivolous/fleeting desire). Okay, yeah I'm not really talking about wine. I'm talking about a sleeping with an ex-boyfriend.
If you're a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you've most likely taken the "desperate times call for desperate measures" approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his doormat, and ultimately push him away.
We've teamed up with Astroglide, maker of personal lubricants and other sexy products, to seek out advice on a very real and dreaded part of the post-breakup period: avoiding ex sex! Between now and February 12, tell us the best way to avoid ex sex and you'll be entered to win fabulous Astroglide prizing.
If you asked someone on the street, "Is sex with an ex a good idea?" The answer would likely be a resounding, "No!" In fact, according to our Break Up With Your Ex research, a whopping 81 percent agree that ex sex is always a bad idea. Psychologists, however, seem to disagree.
It's official. It's over. Actually it's been over for quite some time now. Then why are you still stuck with your ex? You may think you're doing your best to move on, but somehow you just can't shimmy away from him/her. Truth be told even if you aren't in physical contact you may be fooling yourself with lots of sneaky subtle behaviors that keep you connected and prevent you from meeting someone new!
A while back I was dating a guy that I was really into. In hindsight, the relationship was ridiculous… but I was transported by what seemed like some of the best between-the-sheets I've ever had, and I besotted myself into some idea that we had a future. So I was devastated when I was dumped, over email.
It's been days or weeks or even months since you and your ex called it quits. And you're fine. You're convinced everything happens for a reason, and you’'l be better off with someone else someday. You rarely even think of him. Until you do.
“I knew better.” “I knew it was a meaningless friends with benefits deal for him.” “I knew it wasn’t right for me.” “But, after that glass of wine and a little cuddling, one thing led to another and….” Jennie stopped talking. I could hear her crying softly. “I have no control. I still care about him so much. But I feel awful today. I’m such a loser.” Can you relate?
Never give up on someone you can't go a day without thinking about! I’m haunted by my Ex Katherine. Not by what went wrong with our relationship, but what went right with our relationship – our love life. After being laid naked, fetal-positioned, paralyzed, and wanting by our breakup, I want to attempt a sequel with my Ex. I am willing to work harder on our vertical life together for the sake of getting back to our spectacular horizontal life together. How much harder? I am willing to change.