In this day and age, Mick Jagger’s words are truer than ever. ”I can’t get no satisfaction” seems like an anthem to today’s women. As I wrote in my recent post here on Your Tango, successful women have a really hard time getting action in the bedroom. Do Financially Successful Women Have Hotter Sex?
Mom's across the nation are in a tizzy and no, it's not over the teething toy Sophie the Giraffe, although Sophie is pretty great. Instead, what's got these ladies all hot and bothered is an erotic novel about BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism).
Have you ever heard of 'bibliotherapy?' I've been a practitioner for years, but I never heard this fancy word until recently. Bibliotherapy is an academic term used to describe the amazingly beneficial (and very delightful!) mind/body reactions that occur from reading erotic romantic literature. In fact, sex therapists are advising their female patients to get busy and start reading erotic romance! Yay!
Traditional advice suggests "spicing things up" with toys or bedroom games, but it's hard to imagine finding the enthusiasm to browse at a sex store when simply thinking about doing the deed exhausts you. Sexuality coach Pamela Madsen suggests an unusual approach: reading.
Looking to liven up your New Year's Eve? Why not ring in the new year with a sexy gift for that special someone? We've pulled together our favorite sex toys, books and more, so you can make sure 2011 is sexier than ever.
The Trojan Vibrating Ring is a single use product promising up to 20 minutes of vibrations, with choices of Low, High, Low Pulse, and High Pulse. These multiple speeds are controlled by a push button on the top of the ring where the actual vibrator is located. This makes the changing of speeds and vibration patterns easy and quick to navigate. Also, the ring is able to be stretched to accommodate the varying sizes of male partners out there.
Jennifer (name changed) didn't have sex with her ex-husband on their wedding night. "I chalked it up to fatigue," she says. But should it have been a red flag? Well, maybe. It's not that it didn't happen that one night that was the problem; it's that it was the first of many sexless married nights. As an engaged couple, Jennifer and her guy were doing it about three times a week, but once they said their vows, it quickly dwindled to about once a month—sometimes less. YourTango reveals the truth about sexless marriage.
Certain words I dread ("We need to schedule two more dental appointments") while others I would kill to hear ("Ann Coulter's physician confirms sex-change operation"). And then there are statements that defy imagination, such as; "My husband gave me the greatest birthday present last night—a public flogging." I actually overheard one of my exotic dance students say these exact words last week. Now, I'm not exactly unfamiliar with the BDSM scene.
Should our sexual fantasies be morally and politically correct? Excerpted from Best Sex Writing 2009, erotica writer Kristina Lloyd explores her taste for pleasure with a side of discomfort and the judgment that writing graphic sex scenes draws. An intriguing reflection on fantasies and how they define us.
We've already established some people think Palin is hot. (Others are driven wild by her First Dude!) An enterprising Bussel, an erotica writer and former sex columnist for The Village Voice, started the web site, Sarah Palin Erotica, to quench that polar bear-sized thirst.
I hear "romance novel" and a few things spring immediately to mind: Fabio, bad prose and women sitting in La-Z-Boys, smoking Virginia Slims in their housecoats. I'm not talking about soapy chick lit or emotional love tales, like those that Nicholas Sparks writes. I'm talking about the kind that use verbs like throbbing and aching and feature topless hunks on the cover. While the book business continues to falter, romance novels continue to sell. In fact, a 2004 market analysis showed that the romance genre accounted for 40 percent of all books sold that year. With this in mind, I decided it's time to stop judging these books by their covers and take a peek inside.
Rachel Kramer Bussel, editor of the new book 'Dirty Girls,' reveals the secret world of the erotica writer. More Juicy Content From YourTango: 10 Celebrity Sex Tape Scandals You May Have Missed
Writing about sex has always been an honorable tradition. Just like good sex, good sex writing is in the details, the images, the scenario, the melding of reality and fantasy. We read erotica for inspiration, sometimes to lose ourselves, though we often find parts of ourselves within the story. Good sex writing paints a picture; it shows as well as tells, and it connects your mind to your body. Sounds good right, the life of an erotica writer? Can't you see me in my sexy lingerie, sitting at my laptop, popping bonbons from a heart shaped dish into my mouth, porno playing as I sample sex toys for research? Unfortunately the reality is very, very different.
Whenever Abby traveled, she bought books. It was somehow more exciting to discover an interesting book when she was far from home, even the same exact book she might find in a bookstore in her own town. Maybe when most people thought of San Francisco, they thought of sea air at bayside or delicious scents wafting out of North Beach cafés. But Abby thought about the mysterious mustiness of vintage bookstores or the clean-page smell of big bookstores like City Lights and Modern Times.