I work as an intimacy and relationship counselor with urologists and internists, who often see patients due to erectile dysfunction. Frequently, I see couples who worry about erectile dysfunction when the changes they are experiencing are completely normal. Aging, stress, and intimacy conflicts can all hinder achieving an erection. Erectile drugs, such as Viagra and Cialis, have made it easy to achieve an erection; however, medications may mask a problem that shouldn’t be ignored.
Sex Therapy can be complicated. Fortunately, sometimes it isn’t. About three months ago my patient Sam finally started dating again after his wife left him last summer. After a few nondescript experiences, he met Yolanda, they hit it off, and a few weeks later he found himself in bed with her. Two days later he came in for his weekly session. Five minutes before it ended, he mentioned how he couldn’t “y’know” when he wanted to “y’know.”
For years, manufacturers have gamely attempted to make condoms more fun to use, but alas, even the most delectably flavored varieties don't compensate for that sterile, rubbery sensation. Now, a British biotech firm has taken on the challenge by developing the CSD500, a condom that prolongs a man's erection — hence its unofficial nickname, the "Viagra condom."
Although this may sound totally counter-intutitive having a hot, sexy or too perfect girlfriend or woman is one of the leading causes of male arousal disorders or what is more commonly known as erectille dysfunction. Men's failure to perform, when it's purely psychological has a lot to do with wanting to impress, please and perform perfectly for the woman who they see as perfect. She may be the picture of perfection, i.e. model-beautiful or she may be the one you want to be with forever.
Question: The last time I was getting oral sex I lost my erection and now it happens often. Why does this happen and what can I do to stop it? This can be a very common experience. As rapidly as blood engorges your penis to make it erect, the blood can just as quickly drain away leaving you limp. In fact, many men also lose their erections during sexual intercourse.
A couple of weeks ago, a fellow by the name of Davy Rothbart wrote a piece for New York Magazine that was one part confessional and one part trend piece about dudes being unable to do the deed with a real life lady because of the amount of porn they've consumed. Is porn really the villain?
The pharmaceutical industry seems to be built around combating erectile dysfunction. But some men take on impotence the old-fashioned way. They look to nature for a way to aphrodisiac their way into quality erections. The latest, greatest fix is a fungus-covered worm from the Himalayas called the yarsagumba.
It looks like smoking may be one of the biggest deal breakers out there. In fact, in a relatively small sample, it looks like even smokers would prefer not to date smokers. On top of that, most people can't quit smoking without some kind of aid. Not a great day to be a smoker.
If you're like a ton of people, you've probably gone through sexual dry spells, lack of libido, periods of low sexual satisfaction, and other mojo-losing setbacks. But some sexual problems are so chronic that it's impossible to get your booty in gear without going to a sex therapist.
When a man can't get it up, the experience for him and his partner falls somewhere between awkward and utterly mortifying—I've even heard of men not calling women back because they were so ashamed of their inability to keep it up. So what can a woman say or do when her man can't get an erection? Here are five things you can say to help make the best of the situation. Because men are so sensitive about it, and because it's about as embarrassing a moment as he can experience, it puts the woman in a really tough spot. Of course you just want to say, "Honey, is there something I can do to help?" But in some cases, that's exactly what he doesn't want to hear. He's thinking, "No, I'm just dying from the pressure here, and the last thing I want you to do is even notice, much less try to help!" Even worse is if you say, "Is there something wrong?" or "Are you okay?"—because, yes, there obviously is something wrong (you don't have to remind me!) and, no, I'm clearly not OK, I'm flaccid! So what can a woman say or do when her man can't rev up the engines? Here are a few possibilities, but know that any one of these can backfire too, depending on the circumstances. But, in order of most likely to go over well, here are five ways you can say to help make the best of the situation.
A truck driver from DeKalb County, Georgia sought treatment for his erectile dysfunction from Boston Men's Health Center. They gave him a syringe of a proprietary compound and told him to inject his junk with the formula thrice a week. He did so and suffered complications from the get-go. The resulting priapism damaged the man's package and he won roughly $9 million. Elsewhere, a Swede blacked out from drinking and wound up with a phallus tattooed on his leg.
An Australian company called Acrux may be on the way to making some big dollars and some couples really happy. The company is testing a testosterone-boosting drug called Axiron that restores hormone levels to normal in 84 percent of test subjects after four months of testing. As you may know, low man-juice (testosterone, in this case) can lead to memory loss, osteoporosis and erectile malfunctions. Obviously, the major selling point for the drug, which is applied via underarm spray, is as tonic for erectile dysfunction.
You'll never see a dude turn to another dude and ask, "Do I look fat in these pants?" But that doesn't mean men are invulnerable to insecurities, no matter how much we'd like to think so. Women are upfront about their fears, doubts, and self-esteem. I used to think it was just compulsive gabbiness, a quirk of the fairer sex. But, in fact, it is an admirable coping mechanism that's even a little bit courageous. That said, I'll sack up and admit that I've spent a lot of my life feeling like a fatty, a chubasaurus, half-man and half-marshmallow.
In weird news about strange love, a prisoner named Dawud Yaduallah is suing the state of New York for failing to treat his Priapism. This brings up an interesting question, when does an erection go from being funny to being dangerous? Also, learn what the acronyms NEB and ED mean... to guys.