Do you envy your friends? Do you constantly compare yourself to them? If so, help is on the way.
Envy is a natural emotion. Few among us can say we've never felt jealous of someone else's good fortune in any area of life, but specifically love. When you're single, it can be hard to sit across from a pair of lovebirds without feeling the need to force a smile while stifling a gag. This applies even to the most confident and independent among us.
I can’t escape it, it’s in the news every day, and it fills my counseling office. Yesterday, the news told of a four-year-old who was shot to death by his own father, because the father was jealous of his divorced wife’s new relationship. “O, beware... of jealousy; it is the green-eyed monster” wrote William Shakespeare in the sixteenth century. In four hundred years, we don't seem to have been able to tame or conquer this monster. Jealousy is still very present with us, and rears its ugly head often in all relationships.
‘If we all put our problems into a hat and then picked out of it someone else’s problems, we’d all ask for our own back.’ In this Facebook/Twitter/Social Media world that we live in, it’s easy to get caught up in the game of “compare and despair”. You know what I mean? You see your “friends” (some of them you’ve never even met in person! posting pictures of their amazing vacations)Envy Are you counting other people’s blessings instead of your own?
Aristotle defined envy as the pain caused by the good fortune of others. Often used interchangeably, but not to be confused with, jealousy (which describes the fear of losing something), envy is longing for something you don't have. In the case of Snow White, the object of the evil Queen's envy was her youth and beauty.
Pride, greed, gluttony, sloth, envy, anger and lust — the seven deadly sins — get a pretty bad rap in western culture, but a closer look at the scientific record suggests that even these deadliest of vices might not be so deadly after all.
Well first let's define Booty Call. According to Urbandictionary.com definition numero 2. (The explanation our relationship coaches liked most) breaks it down pretty clear: Booty Call: (noun) a phonecall, page,or conversation aimed at getting into your pants. Not an invite to a movie or dinner, not just coffee, not a casual or formal get-together, just a plain old-fashioned “let’s fuck”
This is the 4th article in a series of five discussing natural emotions and their unnatural counterparts. Any time our natural emotions are repressed they create unnatural reactions and responses. The natural emotions are repressed in the majority of people. Our emotions are our gifts, our friends and allies. They are our soul representatives. They represent the world of each person’s private inner life. Because emotions are universal we best relate to each other on the level of the emotions. The best way to have productive communication is to come from our natural emotions.
Welcome to the third of a series of five articles in discussion of the natural and unnatural emotions. My recent articles examined sadness and anger. This article will analyze the natural emotion of envy and its fixed counterpart jealousy. Envy is a beautiful emotion. It arises naturally in all of us the minute we see something in someone else that we admire.
You've heard the term 'wing man' before, and it probably conjures up a funny, mischievous (yet ultimately benevolent) movie character Martin Lawrence might play alongside a hot, shy dude. Martin would be the easy-going middle man who helps his self-conscious hottie friend get the girl.
Single ladies: don't be in such a rush to "put a ring on it." Enjoy this time while you have it. Don't spend so much time and energy looking for a mate because, once you have one, you're stuck with him for life. Take this time to learn to enjoy yourself, so that you're fully equipped to continue doing it when you're married.
For as long as we can remember, women have had a reputation for jealousy and cattiness. It's why studios greenlight movies like Bride Wars. It's why the Team Aniston verses Team Jolie debate continues to rage more than five years after Brad and Jen announced their separation. It's why today, Woman's Day and AOL Living published a "jealousy survey," which polled 2,000 women on what made them envious. Here's what we've gathered:
Darwin believed jealousy was our body's attempt to ward off competition for mates and protect our offspring. Psychologists often describe it as a close cousin to madness. Whatever its origins, romantic jealousy is often has no basis in reality and makes us feel like we've totally lost it. Not fun. Good thing we're capable of higher reasoning! How to put that thinking brain (and a few shallow quick-fixes) to use to get the jealous beast inside of you under control. Tips for managing jealousy include getting a second opinion, owning your jealous freak, meeting the competition, finding her flaws, getting a life, stealing the secrets of therapists, developing a cheating survival plan and more.