As if divorce isn't difficult enough, it's often compounded by the judgment of friends and family who may equate divorce with failure and aren't afraid to let you know. So, what's the best way to handle the public scrutiny and all the pressure it brings? And is there a way to make everyone understand that they should ease up on you during this difficult time?
Stand by the MOYD–show yourself approved and leave no doubts that you are the one. When your man, or prospective man, is down on his luck, this is an opportune time to strike; to have his back and show him who you really are. Show him what the “S” on your chest stands for.
So, what is a doormat anyway? A doormat is a woman who bends over backwards to please her man, a woman who will do whatever it takes to try to make her man happy, no matter how badly he treats her. Here are ten red flags that you're being used as a doormat in your relationships.
The unhappy fact is that teasing and bullying are a normal part of the rough and tumble struggle for social status. We are hardwired with the compulsion to compete for belonging and status in our social groups, and sometimes it goes too far. So, what can you do to help your children with this very difficult fact of life?
Here's a listener question I received. Dear Maryanne, One of my best friends has been unhealthily obsessed with the same guy for almost four years (we're now seniors in college). They have hooked up intermittently over this time but have never been on a date or spent any platonic time together. He has never displayed any actual interest in her or her feelings despite it being incredibly obvious that she is very attached. She refuses to show interest in any other person.
Sometimes I like to remind people that if you want someone to get better then try building him or her up rather than tearing him or her down. The idea of helping ourselves or others get better by trying to improve or correct our weaknesses is deeply ingrained. Research, however, has clearly demonstrated that the way to achieve greatness is by building on strengths, not by improving weaknesses. This goes against our instincts but it is really important information for yourself and your marriage.
When Chris Brown smashed Rihanna's face up and bit her, there should have been no question about what a child learned from their parent. If you didn't reveal your opinion about her return, your silence is sending a message of acceptance. You have to come down heavy on violence against women being wrong and back it up with supporting actions — like telling your kids no buying Brown's music.
Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells whenever your boyfriend or husband is in a bad mood? Are you often tempted to talk it through with him, but he just brushes you off? How can you help him feel better without making him more angry? Too Busy To Work On Your Relationship? This Site Is For You.
Getting your ex back is all you can think about after hearing a few deadly words; "It's over" or "This isn't working for me." Everything that you've counted on and known until now is suddenly gone. Your life plans, your hopes, your dreams and a part of yourself feels utterly lost. You are left with a broken heart and a huge, great, gaping hole in your life. You feel like your whole life has been shattered to bits and you just don't know how you will survive. Getting through the next 60 seconds after hearing those fateful words feels like an eternity and you are sure you now know what dying really feels like.
There are three words more difficult to say to someone aside from “I love you”, and these words are: “I need help.” Admitting you are in need of assistance is more challenging to declare versus a profession of love. When it comes to asking for help and discussing the need for professional guidance, people often wonder if they truly need to see a Psychologist or a Psychiatrist. Ergo, how do you know when it is time to ask for help?
“Have you seen “The Beast” grandma? I cannot find him anywhere!” This is the message I heard on our answering machine from my frantic three year old granddaughter. She had misplaced her good friend, a stuffed Disney character from Beauty and the Beast. The shock and disbelief that her good friend had vanished is often how many divorced women feel about their friends.