People in relationships get into patterns. Some work well for them and some don't. If you find yourself getting into the same bad places in your relationship, you might want to examine what you are doing to sabotage growth, resolution and intimacy in your relationships. It is easy to blame everyone else but until you look at yourself and take responsibility for fixing your part nothing will change. Here are the five ways people tend to have learned to deal with problems in relationships that don't work:
“I remember picking myself up off the floor....I could taste the blood running into my mouth....I’d never been hit before--I was shocked, humiliated and very scared.” So many years ago and yet even now, it chills me to read those words. You might think that it chills me because being assaulted so violently forever marked my soul, but you would be wrong. What chills me is that I was so deaf and blind to my own guidance and found myself within 100 miles of such violence.
Many of us are looking to change something in our lives: Have less stress and anxiety, feel better, be happier, increase confidence, know our life path and more. Yoga and meditation are really fantastic tools to help us with these things and so much has been written on how and why they help. But if we really want to change our external world and not just our internal world, we need to take what we learn in our practice and bring it out into the world. The path to doing this is through a relationship.
The adage “It’s better to give than to receive” is applicable in more ways than one, especially when it comes to bedroom intimacy. Having a selfish significant other can be a bit of a problem when the selfishness becomes a habit. So how do you handle it? We interviewed relationship expert and psychosexual therapist Dr. Sara NasserZadeh on how to resolve. Click here to watch the video!
I believe that emotional intimacy is the MAIN component of a love relationship that keeps a man invested long-term. Most older women can’t compete with 25-year-olds and 30-somethings sauntering through their husbands’ work spaces in miniskirts and push-up bras, but the wise older wives have something much more significant than toned bodies and flawless skin: they have years’ worth of happy marital memories, which have enhanced their ability to hold their husband
Before coming together with my woman, I make time for some quiet moments to feel my power and center myself. I want to connect with the feeling, for myself and for her, that I occupy the masculine role in our relationship. In addition, there are qualities and ways of being that I want to put in place for myself and my beloved. I want to consciously connect with all of these in preparation for loving each other. To this end I’ve written a “Pre-flight Checklist”. for myself. Remember it's a self-checklist and so it won't read like a novel or story.
Why would someone be afraid of intimacy? Don't we all want to feel close and connected with someone? Yes, of course we want that, but there are very real fears that keep us from opening to emotional intimacy in a primary relationship. The Fears What is the first fearful thought you think when you think of feeling close to someone?
Have you ever had great conversation with a potential mate for hours on the telephone and decided to go out on an official date? Thus far , you think you have all the answers leading up to your date, but wait there are more questions? During dinner the lights are low, candles are glowing on the table and the moment is cozy; however now it is time to really let the "questions" begin.
You may be experiencing "physical intimacy" with a man but are you feeling emotionally close to him? Are you involved with a man you deeply care for but find that you can't get beyond having superficial conversations? Do you wish you could tell him more of what you're thinking and feeling? Are you afraid to talk about things that are important to you because you may scare him away or "burden" him with your thoughts?
Our culture specializes in compartmentalization. In medicine, for instance, we have cardiologists, dermatologists, orthopedists and so on. We do this vis-à-vis our relationships, too. We tend to think of them as distinct from the rest of our lives, but this is only partly true. Our relationship strategies are a subset of our life strategies. By and large, we’re as successful at our relationships as we are at life.
There is nothing like meeting a sexy guy for the first time and wanting to impress. For you unattached girls out there who are longing for someone to really call your own, meeting new guys can, however, get really technical; or so I have been told. It’s been said that the ratio of women to men is somewhat alarming; In other words, there seems to be a marked shortage of guys to match all the girls out there looking to settle down with one.
The rumors are true: Men love sex. It would be a mistake, however, to think that the ONLY thing we like about sex is the actual intercourse. Here's six other things about intimacy that we like (almost) as much: 1. Cuddling True. Guys like cuddling. It makes us feel big and strong and all "providey" to wrap a woman up in our arms. HowAboutWe: Why Sex Really Does Change Everything
Certain sex positions facilitate higher levels of emotional intimacy. These positions allow a couple to go beyond their sensory experience, intensifying the intimacy of their encounters and imbuing them with emotional meaning. Eye contact, kissing, caresses, trusting, watching . . . these are emotional complements to the physical experience, and these nine sex positions promote that beautiful, emotional connection.