Emotional Blackmail
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Emotional Blackmail

What is the emotional blackmail? For some people this is what we call ABUSE.   Abuse does not always have to be physical. I sometimes think that mental abuse is so subtle that it can takes years for you to realize, “Why am I here in this relationship?” and ” Why did I not see this coming? ” Any abuse is horrible.

How Do You Respond To Change?
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How Do You Respond To Change?

Everything contains its opposite.  It’s inherent in the way life works.  My friend Pete, faced several situations – each a life-altering pivot point – that brought this fact back to mind. Pete’s wife announced she was leaving him, ending their 30-year marriage.  A few weeks later, his mother died.  Two weeks after that, he received word from his former employer that the company was facing bankruptcy, retiree’s pensions were in jeopardy, and all healthcare benefits would be discontinued.  This was a lot of major change to c

10 Tips To Create True Emotional Connection With Your Partner
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10 Tips To Create True Emotional Connection With Your Partner

As I was standing in line waiting, a man was standing nearby. He was talking to his wife on the phone trying to figure out her order. His voice was loud, back and forth the conversation went, he trying to get her order correct and growing more frustrated and condescending with each interchange of the conversation. The conversation dragged on for what seemed like hours to me.  The tone of his voice sent me into major anxiety and I wanted to run out of the store. It took all the strength I could muster to wait for my order to be completed.

sex kitten
One important characteristic? Sex kittens are willing to be vulnerable.
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Me-ow! 8 Surprising Traits Of A Sex Kitten

It isn't about wearing sexy clothes, five inch stilettos or red lipstick. It isn't about being a size six or living a picture-perfect life. Life coach Debra Smouse explains how unleashing your Inner Sex Kitten is about that inner confidence of knowing who you are and what you desire to create.

How To Control Anger: A 3 Step Approach
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How To Control Anger: A 3 Step Approach

One of the most common things I hear from the couples who come to me for help is that they want to  communicate better. When I explore a little deeper, I'm told what they really want is to stop fighting. At the heart of this problem is that one, or both, of the partners gets emotionally upset. This upset often is expressed as anger. So what I'm really being asked to help them with is how to control anger.

5 New Years Resolutions that you actually can keep
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5 New Years Resolutions that you actually can keep

FIVE NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS Happy 2014! Here are five simple New Year’s Resolutions for anyone who wants proof that human connections promote health. 1. Practice radical empathy: Listen with an open heart and non-defensive stance 2. Move toward attunement: Be curious and really feel your partner’s experience. Reach for her or him emotionally. 3. Take your emotional pulse: Be honest about your feelings. For example, is anger or anxiety covering up hurt? Shame?

Life Coach: Crying & Healing Grief
You should never feel weak for doing something that takes courage.
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The Case For Public Crying

What feels better than a good cry? We know how healing tears can be, and yet, women are often afraid to show weakness or emotion. Life coach Jen Duchene urges us to take back the right for a good cry… who's with her!?

Give yourself a gift: the permission to be human
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Give yourself a gift: the permission to be human

Last night as I was winding down, I sensed there was too much “noise” in my head, unproductive fear and worry, to promote a good night’s sleep. I knew I needed to do something about it before I climbed in bed, so I left my family in the living room, enjoying “Chopped” on the Food Network, and went to my room. I grabbed a pen and notepad and wrote down all my fears and worries (aka journaling.) Thinking I’d quieted the “noise,” I went to sleep assuming that my “before bed” activity was a guarantee that I’d sleep well.

The Three Foundational Pieces to a Happy and Successful Life
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The Three Foundational Pieces to a Happy and Successful Life

We can’t control everything that goes on in our environment. We can’t control when things are going to go completely south just as much as we can’t control when we might suddenly hit huge success. We work really hard in our lives for various things and then one day our mother gets cancer or, conversely, we win the lottery and BAM! If we don’t have a solid, deeply rooted foundation we can get knocked so far off course it’s not even funny.

Why Masturbation & Touch During Divorce & Separation is Important
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Why Masturbation & Touch During Divorce & Separation is Important

First of all, when has this ever been a bad idea? In all seriousness though, it doesn’t seem to matter what night of the week it is, but being newly alone after a separation or divorce is, well…lonely.  Being alone when you have been used to being with your ex or with your ex and the kids as a family is a huge adjustment. You are now alone and isolated probably more of the time than you would like to be.

Intuitive Body Wisdom™
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Intuitive Body Wisdom™

Are you unhappy with work, where you live, your lifestyle or love life? And you just don’t know who to turn to? Do you really understand how to make choices that fulfill you? Are you harnessing the intelligence within you to guide you to be the fullest expression of yourself? If you don’t understand what gives YOU inner peace and fulfillment you will be making choices that leave you empty, unfulfilled and confused.