How To Leave The Dark Ages Of Talk Therapy Behind
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How To Leave The Dark Ages Of Talk Therapy Behind

Scientific discoveries over the last twenty years have changed our lives and made them safer and happier. We no longer use telephones with wires attached to the wall. We drive cars with airbags and GPS to help us find our way. There are cures for many illnesses that killed people back then. But when it comes to psychology we are still in the Dark Ages! Most people believe the only remedies that work are talk and medication.

How To Control Anger: A 3 Step Approach
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How To Control Anger: A 3 Step Approach

One of the most common things I hear from the couples who come to me for help is that they want to  communicate better. When I explore a little deeper, I'm told what they really want is to stop fighting. At the heart of this problem is that one, or both, of the partners gets emotionally upset. This upset often is expressed as anger. So what I'm really being asked to help them with is how to control anger.

Marriage Educator: The Sixth Love Language
Which language do you speak best?
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The Lost Love Language

Gary Chapman outlined five love languages, but this marriage educator has a sixth that will bring you even closer to your partner. How do you express your affection?

To Live Together Or Not? That Is The Question.
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To Live Together Or Not? That Is The Question.

Awhile back, my son and his girlfriend split after living together for less than a year. I had a nice relationship with his girlfriend and after the emotional reaction, the practical side kicked in. I knew he was 27 and perfectly capable of taking care of himself and I didn't ask him any of the "Mom, give me a break!" questions. Being a communciation coach and knowing my son, it wasn't all that hard to resist the temptation.

You can’t embrace the present by holding onto the past
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You can’t embrace the present by holding onto the past

For some it is so hard to let go of the wrongs of their past, they clutch to it like it were a life preserver, when in fact it is more like an anchor pulling them under.  A friend of mine recently shared a profound insight that helped him move on – he said, “I finally figured what I needed to do in order to stop my past from haunting me, I just had to lose sight of it.”  He continued, “The insight came to me when I was looking at one of those 3-D puzzles, the kind if you stare long enough the image emerges but if you take your eyes off of the page &ndash

My Post-Wedding Day Meltdown & What I Learned From It [EXPERT]
Your wedding day should be full of happy tears, not sad ones.
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My Post-Wedding Day Meltdown & What I Learned From It

Our entire wedding day and the week leading up to it went surprisingly smoothly — even with a house full family dynamics event details to sort out. Of course, there were a few minor glitches, but nothing was going to break my stride as I joyously walked down the aisle to marry the man of my dreams. The day after our amazing wedding, I came home and completely fell apart.

Chris Brown
Yep, that's right, it appears she forgave him.
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Right & Wrong Things To Tell Kids About Chris Brown

When Chris Brown smashed Rihanna's face up and bit her, there should have been no question about what a child learned from their parent. If you didn't reveal your opinion about her return, your silence is sending a message of acceptance. You have to come down heavy on violence against women being wrong and back it up with supporting actions — like telling your kids no buying Brown's music.

When You Are On Your Map
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When You Are On Your Map

In 23 years of reading for my clients, I clearly saw self defeating patterns rising again and again no matter what clients tried to change direction. When I realized I was being shown a Map, my coaching and instruction changed radically. Maps can be studied, read, consulted and counted on.

Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad
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Emotional Dependency: Feeling Good When Feeling Bad

Making choices based on your of self-acceptance, self-honor, emotional clarity and inner truth When you are living the dreams, ambitions, and life models that belong to your parents, teachers, or partners, you live according to what you think is expected of you. It creates stress and imbalances in your body, mind, and spirit, affecting all general aspects of your life.