Remember when dating simply meant a guy asking out a girl? Maybe he would call her up, maybe he'd do it face to face. Either way, the options were limited, the results easy to decipher. Even with this simplicity guys and gals everywhere still managed to lose at the game of dating a fair amount. Now with email, instant message, text, Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and their brethren at our disposal, we have found plenty of new ways to communicate and even more ways to mess it up. Where there's a new technology, there's a potential relationship dissolving because of its (mis)use.
Lemondrop asks if it's OK to use work email for dating. Yes, yes it is. The problem with the office romance is abusing power. It's a slippery slope using the firm's (and personal) power and resources for romantic purposes. Feel free to date coworkers but be very leery of company policy and good, decent manners.
The Bachelor's "shocking" finale has become a neverending story. MSNBC reports that personal e-mails between Melissa and Jason after their nationally televised breakup reveal her anger and his placement of blame on the show's producers. According to The Hollywood Gossip, Bachelor host Chris Harrison has cleared the air. Melissa did have an inkling and was not blindsided, the site reports. Molly, on the other hand, was completely in the dark before the after-show was filmed.
Besides a lucky few who've never suffered a breakup, most of us know the boiling anger/sadness/frustration that boils up during and after a breakup. Out of this emotional volcano spews a molten mess of post-breakup correspondence most of us would rather forget we ever wrote. Thanks to two former New York City roommates, our attempts to clarify, expand upon or close the book after a split can now be forever recorded on their blog, Just Been Dumped. The founders go by Jules and Mer, and ask to remain anonymous to protect the identities of the friends and strangers who have submitted the material for public consumption. Whether recently dumped or not, the e-mails (and IM conversations) on the four-month old site are a voyeuristic and potentially cathartic treat.
The year may be coming to end, but the time to get closer to your partner is just beginning. The holidays are an opportunity for couples to introduce the traditions that have been passed from one generation to the next—but also to create new traditions that enhance a relationship for years to come. Here we've collected ten holiday traditions (some a little spicier than others) that you and your boyfriend or husband can make your own. Happy holidays! – Maureen Dempsey and Elizabeth Narins
Have you ever checked your partner's email without his/her knowledge? Does he have your passwords? Is it okay to listen to your significant other's voice mails? Where is the line between intimacy and honesty when it comes to personal, private communication. YourTango takes it to the street to find out what you think about your and your partner's right to privacy.
Last week, I wrote an album review for a band that Alex introduced me to a couple years ago. Even though he listened to them first, I quickly put the group's last few albums in my regular rotation and jumped at the chance to cover their most recent release. After the review went up online, I thought it'd be nice to tell Alex about it. After all, he suggested I listen to them in the first place. I've always believed in giving credit where credit is due. I sent him the link and he wrote me back the next day. He liked the review and suggested a couple of other bands I might want to check out, then filled me in on what's been happening in his life. It was a great email–a friendly reminder of why I liked him in the first place. He's a funny, genuinely good person who has great taste in music (among other things). But that, of course, doesn't mean our problems would all be magically fixed if we were to give it another shot. It just means he's a cool person.
So what does man do? He jumps on a plane and breaks the other guy’s jaw. According to The Telegraph, Stephen Henshaw and his wife, Tammy, were happily married—until Facebook got involved. Tammy reconnected with an ex, Jake, through the social networking site, and ended up cheating on her husband with the former boyfriend.
We have been taught that the definition of cheating starts with a kiss, and that a physical tryst is the ultimate betrayal. But other non-physical behavior can be equally as harmful as a sexual affair. Monogamy is not just a having sex with only one person. Relationship rules help define what's OK and what's out of bounds. We can look to the French President Jacques Chirac for a few what to dos and what not to dos.