We've seen enough married political figures with upstanding reputations, adorable kids, and kick-ass wives—maybe even especially those— cheat. The thing we've yet to uncover, though, is why. We get the human nature, sex thing. A USA Today/Gallup poll conducted in March of this year — right after the Eliot Spitzer scandal broke — found that 54 percent of Americans know someone with an unfaithful spouse. We're no math whizzes, but it seems to reason that unless each of the 1,025 people polled was referring to the same couple, that means half of all relationships in the U.S. suffer from infidelity—and people talk about it. But, with so much at stake and so many falling before them, how can men in the public eye cheat on their wives—and expect to get away with it?
Damn, we mentioned that sh*t clownin', dog. How f*cked up is you? The New York Post is reporting that Ashley "You Me And" Dupre is on the way to reality TV stardom. No, make that super stardom. The plucky musician is reportedly working with Handprint Entertainment on figuring out just how to make it happen. Supposedly, the present plan is to pitch MTV a reality dating show not unlike the 1 with Tila Tequila. The twist is that this one will have Ashley Dupre and not Tila Tequila. So far, we like the premise. Dupre recently dropped her lawsuit against Joe Francis's Girls Gone Wild empire and she probably can't really turn tricks anymore, so it's reality TV or bust.
Kind of like drinking or driving underage, part of having sex outside of a committed relationship is the thrill that comes with doing something illicit. Cue Tango's favorite therapist Esther Perel and other experts hoping to pull marriage's reputation out from under its passionless, restrictive shell through greater communication and understanding. Weiss quotes one friend who says: “Do middle-aged, married women who are no longer interested in having sex with their husbands expect them to remain faithful?" The response, according to American mores, is "yes," though this is at odds with biology. Evolutionary biology's poster child should be the transgender man quoted in the article, who underwent a sex change after 50 years as a woman. He told Weiss that since taking testosterone supplements, he's noticed "a newfound ability to completely divorce sexuality from emotional commitments."
The guys over at Law & Order have ripped another case right from the headlines. They've decided to weigh in on New York politics and the Eliot Spitzer prostitution scandal. Well, the writer's strike seemed to have paid off. They might not have had time for that one if the season had gone as planned. Sliver linings.
We couldn't help but be drawn to sexwork101.com, a new web site devoted to educating regular people like us on the sex industry. sexwork101.com and boundnotgagged.com, a blog for sex workers, fill in the gaps between what we know and what the media offers us. We found the glossary particularly helpful, as these Spitzer-scandal times call for the correct verbiage. No need to offend anyone!
There's been a lot of talk lately about what constitutes $4,000 sex. And the question that still seems to be haunting women—long after l'affaire Spitzer has fizzled—is: one diamond, two diamond, three diamond, four—what's so special about bedding a whore?After careful analysis, we've concluded: Not much. Which is why we've rounded up everything you need to unleash your inner hooker. Not that we're suggesting you turn tricks. (No, not even if you don't wind up getting a tax refund.) After all, we can all agree that men paying for prostitutes is so...last week.
Just when you think you've deep-sixed one seriously depraved New York politician, accusations arise that another was not only secretly gay, but, oh by the way, he and his wife were having threesomes with his driver long before he ever came out. (Not that that in itself is necessarily depraved.) Hmm. Like we said, love rarely resembles a 50's sitcom. And we don't pretend to know what Silda should do with her Eliot, which is why we put the question to you:
Has today’s feminist movement really taken on a twisted connotation? There’s a stimulating and valid rant in The Los Angeles Times about how the original strengths and rights that women are striving to Feminist rightly claim have been blurred into obscurity.
It looks like a pimp has told FoxNews that he once sent the Eliot Spitzer hooker 'Kristen' AKA Ashley Alexander Dupre to visit Charlie Sheen... as a cheerleader. He also alleges that the girls would do cheers for Charlie in their costumes. What if this all was true? Super.
My self-inflicted inundation with last week’s Spitzer scandal left me feeling some man hate deeper than call-girl-Kristen’s cleavage. That an otherwise intelligent ex-boyfriend justified the father of three’s romp with a “Those girls were hot” response certainly didn’t help. I was left thinking: Are men at the core un-evolved animals interested only in hopping into bed with as many pretty young things as possible? Hence, it was refreshing to start this week anew with a list of real men’s opinions about women. The male staff at Men’s Health recently compiled a list of “50 Things Men Wish You Knew” to accompany a female-created 50-point list outlining what women want from men. While certain entries, such as #7 “Shopping is a chore, not an activity,” come as no surprise, there are certain tidbits that, even if they’re nothing new to you, I believe are beneficial to read and be reminded of.
A website dedicated to cheating spouses ran a full page ad in the New York Post both touting their services and chiding outgoing NY governor Eliot Spitzer. Their theory is that cheating, if done through their site, is safer and more discreet than using the sex industry. We're not sold.
I kept going, and my stomach dropped as I realized that "massage" was simply Internet parlance for sex. All the time we’d been together, when he’d refused to use condoms—until I finally went on the Pill—he'd been hiring, or trying to hire, hookers. I could tell at least one of his attempts had been successful; a woman emailed back to say that he'd left a piece of jewelry behind with her. Another response, from an escort site which I promptly visited, made the imagery all too real.
According to Dr. Teela Sanders, a writer and lecturer at the University of Leeds, and the author of Paying For Pleasure: Men Who Buy Sex, 30% of men (in England, anyway) will buy sex at some point in his life. . . and we're not talking porn. She delves into the who (anyone), where (all over), and why (lots of reasons) that married men do this. Bill Clinton and Eliot Spitzer are prime examples of guys seeking something outside of their marriage who have no interest in divorce. Dr. Sanders also discusses why women are expected to "stand by your man."
Sure they're not identical hand twins, but we're pretty sure that Silda Spitzer and Jennifer Anniston could pass for each other. We don't know if that'll ever be necessary but it's always a good option to have. We're not sure you'll be called upon to play Eliot Spitzer in a movie version of this but he'll probably be weasely.
What would inspire a rich, powerful man (say Eliot Spitzer) to risk it all on a tryst with a prostitute? Well, in some cases, it's a little oral sex. Studies show that men seeking prostitutes are often just trying to get a bj. Other studies show that almost all men are into receiving oral sex and not that many women are enthusiastic about giving it. Correlation?