Regardless of what side of the political spectrum they fall on, it seems that men in powerful positions just can't keep it in their pants. The latest politician to fall under scrutiny is businessman-turned-Republican presidential hopeful, Herman Cain.
Now we know why Silda Spitzer stood by her man Eliot: she believed that her husband's hooker-banging was her fault. "The wife is supposed to take care of the sex. This is my failing,'' she is quoted as saying in Peter Elkind's new book The Rise and Fall of Eliot Spitzer. "I wasn't adequate." Le sigh. Guess a J.D. from Harvard Law isn't enough to purge a victim's guilt for the perpetrator's crime. But hold on for a second. What responsibility does the wife bear for her husband's infidelities? (Or a husband for his wife's?) The "politically correct" answer would be "zero," but is it the truth?
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Almost as outrageous as the New York Post getting infamous call girl Ashley Dupré to pen an advice column about relationships is the move by BigThink.com to ask Eliot Spitzer to ruminate about love. Yet, after watching him in this video, we do find that he has something important to say. At times it is ironic (the "unique," "palpable" "exultation" of a new love/lust interest), while at others we find a Spitzer grappling with the sublime: "I have no illusion that I can ever get this piece of my life to fade significantly into the background." Below, the video and transcript.
Over the last ten years, we've watched our favorite celebs hook up, break up, break down, flip out, and start over. With all of its love triangles, legal battles, family dramas, and political scandals, the "Naughties" certainly earned its wicked name!
The fine folks at the New York Post have either lost their minds or the dying newspaper business has forced them to get publicity any way they can. They've given Eliot Spitzer's former call-girl, Ashley Dupre, a sex and love advice column. What? Since when does helping many husbands cheat on their wives make someone an expert on how to keep love alive? The last advice Ashley dished out was probably to impressionable young girls who read People magazine, when she matter-of-factly explained last month that prostituting herself was no different than "...going on a date with someone you barely know and hooking up with them. The only difference is I can pay my rent."
Love Bytes: three must click sex, dating and relationship links. This woman pays her boyfriend's bills, he lies about his spending, and for some reason she doesn't know what to do. Seriously, what's there to be confused about? [Smitten] He's an apprentice in school right now, so he's on government loans until he goes back to work. The funds are not enough to cover his bills, so I have been paying the rent in full, his insurance and truck payments, his phone and credit card bills, and giving him other spending money--all on top of my own bills. I absolutely don't mind helping him in his time of need. The problem is, ever since he started school he has started telling me lies. We liked it better when erectile dysfunction advertising wasn't interactive. [Buzzfeed] Eliot Spitzer expresses remorse for causing "excruciating pain" to his wife, tells Today Show "there are no excuses" for his former involvement with prostitutes. [Huffington Post]
The New York Daily News' Rush and Molloy gossip column somehow found a previous Eliot Spitzer charge, Annie, and shook her down for intimate details of the affair. It turns out Spitzer was rough and aggressive during sex. wanted a scenario where I was supposed to say I had just been to a self-defense class. He was supposed to respond, 'Let's see if you learned anything. He would be aggressive. I would have to defend myself. When he arrived, he took off his jacket but kept on his shirt and tie. His demeanor was nice, but I don't remember any kissing or tenderness. He wanted to get on with the role-play," Annie told the paper. He also kept his socks on.
When the Bloodhound Gang dutifully clarified "You and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals," in their ode to the Discovery Channel, they may have been calling out to the wrong network. After all, it was the NFL that recently rejected The Ashley Madison Agency’s Super Bowl ad, and revoked its permission to advertise during any NFL game, forever more. Ashley Madison is a seven-year-old online dating service that connects married people looking for discrete affairs. Ironically, The New York Post recently printed a markedly non-discrete, full-page ad featuring an open letter to Eliot Spitzer (get the full Tomfoolery take). A new Durex ad–that is WAY less discrete than the services of Ashley Madison, and even less likely to appear during this year’s Super Bowl–is sweeping the web in an online viral marketing campaign. Love Buzz editors are both disturbed (which is difficult) and amused by the “Get It On” campaign, which features a thirty-second rubber-rabbit orgy. We’ll never look at a balloon animal–or condom–the same way.
A 29-year-old female elementary school teacher from Abington, Massachusetts faces statutory rape charges after allegedly having sex approximately 300 times over the course of 18 months with a 13-year-old boy. According to the Boston Globe, when McCallum appeared in Brockton District Court last Friday to plead not guilty on several of the counts, she did so with her husband of five years at her side. The Sun goes further, specifically stating that, "she was seen in court holding her husband's hand." All of this begs the question: If your partner was accused of a sex crime, would you stand by his or her side?
The celebs were up to their usual breakup, make-up, make-out, freak-out routine in 2008. But a few celebrities had particularly noteworthy years and we got Paul McCartney, Anne Hathaway, Britney Spears, Jay-Z, Eliot Spitzer, Jennifer Aniston, Lindsay Lohan, Ellen Degeneres and Madonna all on board.
I've been in the infidelity situation from all angled: the cheated upon, the cheater, the cheatee. My experience at the tender age of 17 as the cheated upon has clearly informed my ethics in this matter. Responsiblity counts. As the cheater, I've apologized. As the cheatee, I haven't, but I would if I was ever confronted. Maybe it's naive of me to compare two horny high school students with former NY Gov. Eliot Spitzer, a married public figure and father of three children. I do realize the two situations are not comparable at all. But I think what any "woman scorned" wants is remorse. Does that mean all call girls and strippers should apologize to the wives and girlfriends of the men who see them? No, that would be impossible. But high class call girl Ashley Dupre became famous due to Client Number Nine and surely not a day goes by where Silda Spitzer does not think about her. The ex-governor has said "I'm sorry" to his wife countless times; now Ashley Dupre really has no other choice but to show remorse as well. So I think it's responsible, respectable -- a little bit classy, even -- for Dupre to give a remorseful shout-out to scorned wife, Silda Spitzer, on 20/20. Gawker reports that during her interview with Diane Sawyer, to air on Friday, Dupre offers Silda Spitzer a simple, "I'm sorry for your pain." It's not much, but it's something. And in a situation where there don't seem to be many clear "winners," that seems to be enough.
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Debauchette, you might remember, is the courtesan (she prefers the term "whoretesan," heehee) and blogger, who came to national attention when Diane Sawyer interviewed her earlier this year in the wake of the Eliot Spitzer scandal. Yesterday she wrote that three of her clients have called this week to make sure she's financially solvent. In case you're wondering too, she is. "I’m fine. I saved. I saw it coming. I live modestly," she's been telling the concerned men.