DREAMS

One expert explains the psychology behind sexual fantasies.

I had a familiar dream recently.  It was near the end of the semester in my dream and I had not attended many of my calculus classes.  I knew I would fail and I was desperately searching for a way out of this mess.  As I woke from my dream, I realized that I had nothing to fear from calculus.  I had graduated in spite of it and would never have to pass calculus again.  But it got me to thinking, "What triggered that dream?"  My friend confessed to having similar dreams, along with the ever popular

“Last night I had the weirdest dream! What do you think it means?” How do we begin to make any sense of our dreams that appear as metaphors and symbols with mystical, scary or fantastical landscapes coming to use in the calm of the night? Who are those people we recognize or don’t and what are the messages? "Between the dreams of night and day there is not so great a difference."

The latest miracle in my life is the prompting from BodyTalk practitioner Heather Strang to take an international trip aligned with my dream. Since elementary I've aspired to be just like the literary prose scribes who got to create tales based on foreign and domestic adventures. Hemingway took off to Paris. So shall I in 2014 but I am planning now.

When I was single, I remember getting together with my single-and-hating-it girlfriends one night to do a “vision party”. We cut out magazines and inspirational words of our ideal lives with our soulmates to put into a vision binder. This was over 14 years ago, way before the movie The Secret came out and the “Law of Attraction” became such a common phrase. We spoke blessings over our visions. We drank wine. We cried. We laughed. And even saged our visions, lit candles, burned incense. We were going to manifest our soulmates, dammit!

It is the season of the heart making it the ideal time to explore how love and dreams go hand in hand. Consider this; without love and passion, dreams are merely goals. Goals are useful and essential, and some people even define goals as dreams with a due date. Yet, when it comes to expressing what you love and long for, we are definitely in the territory of the heart.

Right about now you might be asking yourself “am I really going to read this article?” So I am going to answer that for you, “YES, you are” because I may be one of the few men qualified to write about such important and critical matters! Allow me to explain:

A very attractive single mom recently told me this story: She had met a man and felt sure he was the man of her dreams. There was a synchronicity about their meeting she could not ignore; the chemistry was electric and the sex, she said, was the best she had ever had—in her life, I might add. It had to be love, she gushed!

Since the beginning of our relationship I have had dreams about my boyfriend that range from neutral (we're out with a bunch of friends but not really talking to each other) to terrible (he's with an ex or I'm cheating on him with someone else).

There are literally hundreds, if not hundreds of thousands of ways we can behave that could be considered loving. Yet, it is from where the gesture comes from that distinguishes the loving act from the empty gesture. If your goal is to display your love or affection genuinely, here are my five suggestions.

When I announced to my family and friends that I was moving to California to help people achieve their dreams, they looked at me like I had lost my mind. They said things like, "You used to be so credible. Can't you call this goal setting?" Although I agree that goals are essential to making your dreams come true, there is a very different energy around dreams.

Last month when I was having all that fun celebrating my birthday I had a realization brought about by blowing out my candles numerous times. Each time I did I made three wishes. I realize this must come from various fairy tales and fables where the main character is given three wishes. Many times this doesn't work out very well for them, I seem to remember. They wish for something too small or too big or in some way not right. The big tragedy in the stories, at least the way I remember them, is that the three wishes are wasted!

Mastering the Art of Feeling Good Intro Series: Part-2 Now that you understand a bit more about your own personal power (Part-1), let's examine ways of using that power to add more joy into your life to feel good more often. The first step is to simply intend to do it. Decide you will seek to feel good more often.

Often, when we get in touch with our most heartfelt and hopeful dreams, what may also surface are some of our doubts. There is an important relationship between (what I refer to as) the dreamer and the doubter that live inside of us. It is useful and necessary to develop skills for dealing with our doubt; otherwise your dreams could very well get squelched.

If you think dreams are unattainable fantasies or something you only do in your sleep, think again. Not only do dreams occur when you're awake, but you have the power to make them real. Here's how.

Whether you hope to change jobs, go back to college, travel or help others, you may feel overwhelmed by your day-to-day responsibilities, causing you to never give your wishes a second thought. Many of us wish to travel more, to experience new places, new foods or new cultures. Seldom do we find a way to make our dreams a reality. With a few helpful strategies, you can create your own wish list to conquer. So, in honor of World Wish Day, here are four steps that will explain how to make your dreams a reality.