I almost didn’t write a blog about World’s AID day…knowing that too many people would pass it over. Uninterested because it's a been there, done that topic.
Men think—from their porno-sex-ed and general socialization— pleasing a woman means: (1) a big penis; (2) lasting a long time during intercourse; (3) making her orgasm. These things are probably NOT what the average gal is looking for in the sexual experience. In fact, she’s probably craves something very different.
As I limped ‘blue balled’ to read a book in bed, I said to my husband in frustration, “You know if you were fixed, we could be having sex right now.” Equally as frustrated he replied, “What’s wrong with using a condom?” “I’m ovulating today and I don’t want to take any chances. The condom could break.”
I was invited to a mom’s book club who were (bless them) reviewing my book, Till Sex Do Us Part: Make Your Married Sex Irresistible. It was a range of moms who had babies up to 20 year-old kids. Inevitably the conversation went to girl’s sexuality.
I turned to my husband and said, “Do you think he’s trolling for women at the Farmer’s Market?” In the banding together men do when it comes to all-things-trolling my husband stuck up for him, “There’s a lot of nice, wholesome—and good looking—women who work here. It’s a great place to meet someone.”
You can imagine my surprise when the camera showed the reporter whipping out his penis and urinating on the metal plate. I sat in immobile disbelief, staring at his penis, thinking, “There’s his penis. There’s his penis peeing, and it is on primetime British TV.”
How could I explain to my (childless) friend that taking a shower once a week was an exercise in time management gymnastics—and a much higher priority than sex?
Although the closeness of intercourse feels nice it’s probably not getting most women off. Why? Her clitoris isn’t located inside of her vagina. So simply having penis-vagina intercourse all night long will become boring quick.
Often, when you're in a long-term relationship, sex is put on the back burner. If it weren't for heightened airport security and the requisite frisking, busy couples might get no action whatsoever. This is what happened to Dr. Trina Read, sexpert, best-selling author, and sex coach. After the birth of her second child, Dr.Trina decided to get her sex life back on track, vowing to have sex with her husband once a week for six months—and blog about it, naturally. Throw in the holidays, flu season and two kids under the age of 3 and you got yourself a Six-Month Sex Challenge.
