Don't let binge eating control your life any longer; Recognize the signs and overcome them.
We all yearn for deep, enduring love. We burn for exotic, erotic sex. We crave...well, you name it. Why? Not because we are all hot to trot, but because our brains are. That's right. A segment of the brain called the limbic system governs our reward circuitry, or "pleasure centers," which in turn rule our wants and desires, especially when it comes to love and food, the two things the body—and the species—need to survive. But that's just where the story begins.
The relationship between the brain and porn is a mystery to most. So many people have shared with me how pornography has affected their brain and ultimaltely their relationships. Many women try to understand why their partner seems to be addicted to it? Seems like they just can't get enough of it! And it's NOT just men that enjoy viewing it. It may be they are just more vocal about it.
Hopefully from reading Part II of this series, you're ready to shed any guilt, resentment, blame or shame about spending time with anyone. The goal of this series is to bring you a whole lot closer to true love by teaching you how to love yourself first. Now, it's time to tango! Can you trust your chemistry? Is your "picker" broken?
Have you noticed that indiscriminately following your attractions often ends in disaster? If so, you've come to the right place. In this series of articles, I'll take you on the chemistry journey of your life. As we travel together, you'll begin to look at your relationships differently. You will be empowered at times when you've previously felt lost or confused. Let's begin.
Dear Dr. Brit and Catherine, Several months ago a woman broke up with me, and I’m still madly in love with her. Here’s a little background information: I found the way she broke up with me to be very inconsiderate and hurtful, I told her how that felt and asked for her help in dealing with the depression that followed. She refused the help I asked for citing that her privacy is too important (I wanted to know the things she wouldn’t tell me in the relationship). This made her angry enough to not wish to speak with me anymore.
Would you want your partner to know what you communicate to others via text, email, phone calls, etc? What about your internet habits? Are your actions in line with your values and commitment? What about your partner; would he/she be comfortable sharing his cyber habits with you? Is MySpace YourSpace?
When we start to crush, why do our appetites vanish? And why is four hours of sleep just fine? Limerence, coined in the 1970s by Dorothy Tennov is the rose-colored lenses part of a relationship, where dopamine skyrockets, similar to being on cocaine. study in Italy also proved that being in love raises women's testosterone levels and lowers a man's. If we're lucky, our crush then flattens into a nice, comfortable groove of commitment. While not as exciting as the roller coaster first stage, the feeling of comfortable companionship is also dominated by hormones. While bonding oxytocin, the brains trusting maternal hormone, is released. Oxytocin makes us crave spooning, breakfast bed, and maybe even marriage, pets and children.
Dr. Helen Fisher, world renowned biological anthropologist, discusses her book Why Him? Why Her?, which explains the connection between biology and human attraction. She's identified four main personality types: Explorer, Builder, Director and Negotiator.
Is new love as good as chocolate? It may be the dopamine you're feeling. Relationship experts Pat Love and Helen Fisher weigh in on the biological responses from lust to long-term love. From the first flush of romance to the deep attachment of a long-term marriage; Marisa Belger uncovers the chemistry behind the cycle of love.