Kinky: How To Be Dominant In The Bedroom
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Kinky: How To Be Dominant In The Bedroom

Learning how to be dominant in the bedroom is something that I think everyone should learn. While it's not one of the usual techniques that I teach in the Bad Girl's Bible, it can help to expand your horizons in the bedroom and help to give you more ideas as to what's possible with your man. (P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques for building sexual tension & turning him on, you’ll find them in this powerful video)

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Spanking parties aren't all bondage gear and sex toys.
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Hey, What's A Spanking Party Like?

The first time I asked a guy to spank me in bed, he suggested I double up on my therapy sessions. When I asked him a second time, he did it — but in a half-assed way because it wasn't his thing. While I respect that, I knew that if I didn't get properly spanked at some point soon, I was going to lose it.

Are those Manolos? What size?
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Is There A "Sex Fetish Gene"?

I am pretty sure that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes we really like being tied up despite having a pleasant, if unremarkable upbringing and having great respect for our friends, lovers and neighbors. Mommy and daddy issues are frequently convenient excuses for "embarrassing" desires we've been taught to believe are "sinful."

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"Fifty Shades of Grey" by E.L. James.
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I'm A Feminist And I Love S&M

The book "Fifty Shades of Grey" has brought to the forefront of modern society and readers' minds the fact that some women (and men) enjoying BDSM play in their sex lives. SHOCKING, right? What sort of deviant wants to be spanked or tied up or told they're a "bad girl?" I'll tell you: about 60 percent of my friends — mostly women, but some men, too.

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The romance "Fifty Shades of Grey" has won legions of fans.
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Love Bytes: Is S&M Back In Style?

Is S&M cool again? You really, really don't want to date these men. Do not say this to a pregnant woman. Abortion law by the numbers in 2012. Twelve tips for dating in a Facebook world. Some men run away from too much sex. 10 things you really don't want to say or hear on a first date. What lies do women tell their husbands?

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Tips from practicing your fetishes, safely.
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7 Tips For Safe S&M Sex

BDSM has gained mainstream attention lately, thanks in part to "Fifty Shades of Grey," a book with an S&M relationship at its center.

Why Every Woman Should Experiment With S&M [EXPERT]
Don't be afraid to whip out that BDSM device!
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Why Every Woman Should Experiment With S&M

Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel that explores BDSM — the consensual use of bondage, discipline and power fantasy role play — I actually find myself breathing a little easier. Why? Because this is something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.

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I Worked As A Dominatrix, But I'm Just Like You

"I specialized in pretty hardcore scenes—what we called corporal scenes. Sort of the meaner scenes," she tells Lemondrop. "Which was interesting, because it didn't seem to fit with my personality. I didn't like those sessions at the beginning. You start by doing the 'sensual sessions' that look like flirty behavior... but that just started to feel uncomfortable—too close to reality. I worked hard not to engage my sexuality in the job. So there was something thrilling about acting out this mean, violent persona. It was so far from who I was or who I'd ever been." Although we've only just met her, we believe her. It's hard to imagine this sweet-sounding professor ever trussing up a naked man like a turkey or, say, dunking his head underwater. But remember—those guys asked her to do it, they paid her for it, and all we have to say is, she worked hard for her money. As if her book weren't revealing enough—and trust us, it is!—Febos agreed to share even more. In her own words, below are 10 Things You Don't Know About My Life As a Dominatrix:

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Guys: What We Wish You Would Do In Bed

I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I’ve come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky. So, I'm going to help you out, boys. Here are some things your lady might want, but she's too self-conscious to ask for. Don't pressure anything, of course— but if you offer, you may be pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts ...

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The Emotional Side Of Rough Sex

I thought I'd had "rough sex" before; I'd been spanked on my butt plenty of times, had my hair pulled, even been caned once while strung up with my hands over my head. That hurt, and I cried, and I liked it, because I'm submissive like that, but it was just a one-time thing. I'd had plenty of encounters with talking dirty, spinning all sorts of nasty fantasies, where, most of the time, I was on the receiving end of some very hot epithets. But I'd never wanted to be choked until I got together with the guy I'm dating now.

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The Wrong Kind Of Foreplay: Using A Loaded Gun

There's nothing wrong with a hot-n-heavy game of dirty cowboy. And according to Deborah Yvette Parker, that's all she and her commonlaw husband, Broderick Craig Crachian, were partaking in when he died of an accidental gunshot wound to the chest. Describing her as "extremely distraught," Parker's court-appointed attorney, Murray Newman, explained to the Houston Chronicle that: "She loves him, and this is just a terrible accident."