Safe Words, Whips and Leather, Paddles and Spanking. It’s all very exciting stuff. Or maybe your reaction is it’s all too freaky for me; let me out of here. We'd ask that you would stick it out. We were as surprised as anyone by the discoveries we’ve made. Lacey and I have each lived a life, we are a 40 something couple that are remarried. Recently we've discovered a D/s side to our relationship. How it came about is a post for another day. The power exchange is the focus of this blog. I am the Dom and Lacey is the sub.
Learning how to be submissive can be a tricky thing. That's why I have written this guide, based on some of the principles for better sex that I teach at the Bad Girl's Bible to show you exactly how to be submissive for your man without him losing respect for you. (P.S. If you want to learn my best dirty talking tips & techniques for building sexual tension & turning him on, you’ll find them in
Despite our fantasies of Don Draper or Christian Grey, it's most likely a Michael Cera type who will be able to satisfy us the most sexually. A new Yale University study published in the Sex Roles journal (yes, that exists) found that men who believe they need to be dominant during playtime are less comfortable asking women about their sexual needs.
A sexy way to explore light kinky play is to use erotic control in the bedroom. You might be asking…what does that mean? Erotic control is when one partner “gives up” control to the other partner. In the BDSM world this is called domination & submission and with the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey it’s obviously something that a lot of women are interested in!
E.L. James' novel '50 Shades of Grey,' which explicitly describes a passionate relationship involving sexual power play, has become so popular that it has attracted mega media buzz. It has also brought up the idea that perhaps many more people than expected are into these forms of "rough sex," as some call it. Have you, too, found yourself aroused by the love scenes in this provocative book?
Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel that explores BDSM — the consensual use of bondage, discipline and power fantasy role play — I actually find myself breathing a little easier. Why? Because this is something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.
I want to earn more money than my husband to have a better sex life. Fact: I want to be a successful businesswoman. I never want to feel like I have to rely on a man to pay for my clothes, travel, entertainment, food, housing... anything. Which is not say I don't enjoy receiving gifts, but when it comes to my relationships, I've made a conscious decision to strive to be the breadwinner.
What do you do when your man doesn't know how to treat you the way you want to be treated in bed? In this week's Savage Love, a young woman writes to Dan Savage about her desire for rough sex and her new boyfriend's seeming inability to give it to her. In order to remedy the situation, the woman has hatched a scheme: have a threesome with her new boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend, so that the new boyfriend can learn the basics of bondage, rape fantasies, etc. The new boyfriend, she tells Dan, is totally on board with the plan. Nonetheless, she can't help but wonder: "Am I being a selfish bitch?" and "Is it a bad sign that he's not satisfying me sexually after three months?"
"I'm a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days, I'd like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I'd appreciate it if he'd find some excuse--something I did wrong--to spank me until I cry before having wild sex with me." Girlfriend harbors some serious 1950s housewife "Betty Crocker" fantasies, but realizes she doesn't want her relationship to be all Betty Crocker, all the time. The cooking/cleaning/apron-wearing/spanking is a heightened form of foreplay for her, but it looks so much like reality (rather, some people's reality) that she's fearful her guy is going to blend the fantasy into real life