3 couples reveal the rewards of bringing rituals of dominance & surrender into their lovemaking.
E.L. James' novel '50 Shades of Grey,' which explicitly describes a passionate relationship involving sexual power play, has become so popular that it has attracted mega media buzz. It has also brought up the idea that perhaps many more people than expected are into these forms of
"rough sex," as some call it. Have you, too, found yourself aroused by the love scenes in this provocative book?
Find out how BDSM can help you connect with your body, heart and mind in a meaningful way!
Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel that explores BDSM — the consensual use of bondage, discipline and power fantasy role play — I actually find myself breathing a little easier. Why? Because this is something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.
For this alpha-female, being the breadwinner means better sex.
I want to earn more money than my husband to have a better sex life. Fact: I want to be a successful businesswoman. I never want to feel like I have to rely on a man to pay for my clothes, travel, entertainment, food, housing... anything. Which is not say I don't enjoy receiving gifts, but when it comes to my relationships, I've made a conscious decision to strive to be the breadwinner.
What do you do when your man doesn't know how to treat you the way you want to be treated in bed?
What do you do when your man doesn't know how to treat you the way you want to be treated in bed? In this week's Savage Love, a young woman writes to Dan Savage about her desire for rough sex and her new boyfriend's seeming inability to give it to her. In order to remedy the situation, the woman has hatched a scheme: have a threesome with her new boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend, so that the new boyfriend can learn the basics of bondage, rape fantasies, etc. The new boyfriend, she tells Dan, is totally on board with the plan. Nonetheless, she can't help but wonder: "Am I being a selfish bitch?" and "Is it a bad sign that he's not satisfying me sexually after three months?"
How to be a submissive, equal rights-loving housewife.
"I'm a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment, and fairness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some days, I'd like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wearing only an apron. Then I'd appreciate it if he'd find some excuse--something I did wrong--to spank me until I cry before having wild sex with me."
Girlfriend harbors some serious 1950s housewife "Betty Crocker" fantasies, but realizes she doesn't want her relationship to be all Betty Crocker, all the time. The cooking/cleaning/apron-wearing/spanking is a heightened form of foreplay for her, but it looks so much like reality (rather, some people's reality) that she's fearful her guy is going to blend the fantasy into real life
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