Rihanna and Chris Brown are young (Chris is 19). Sure, they're celebrities who have faced the pressure of the public eye, and they've done serious work at an age when many people are skipping class because they did too many kegstands. But no matter what adult situations they've successfully navigated the fact remains that they are not grown-ups. They need guidance and support. Which brings us to Bonnie Fuller's essay on Huffington Post.
Rihanna does not like the statement of apology that Chris Brown has issued in the aftermath of his alleged assault on her. Friends say that she is "royally pissed off" by Brown's "cavalier and arrogant statement" and that "he should have expressed more contrition."
So I want to open up this conversation to what you think about violence and relationships. I know some of you have been in violent relationships. What was that like and did you get out? Did you try and work on it? Do you know people in violent relationships? What would happen if your SO hit you?
This is the saddest story ever: a 27-year-old man threw acid on the face of Iranian woman Ameneh Bahrami, blinding both her eyes, after she refused repeated marriage proposals from him. According to CNN, her attacker, who is known only as "Majid," fell for Bahrami at college and his mother attempted several times to arrange a marriage between them. Bahrami refused and even lied to Majid, telling him she was already married. Despite her refusal, he stalked her at her workplace to harass her. She even reported him to police, but the cops said there was nothing they could do until he actually tried to hurt her. What, no restraining orders in Iranian law? Maybe if they existed, the horrific attack on Bahrami that followed would not have occurred: one day in 2004, Majid followed her home from work and threw a container of acid on her face. Passersby tried to wipe the acid off and took her to the hospital, but doctors were unable to save her eyeballs. She is now blind.
He said "gimme some sugar, baby"...but he wanted a Mars Bar. Marco Fella, 38, of England, bit his girlfriend because he felt angry she wore big Bridget Jones panties instead of thong underwear. And he blamed his sugar addiction! Fella told the judge he noshes 10 Mars Bars a day and the sugar addiction's got him high-strung. Therefore he attacked his 34-year-old live-in girlfriend two times in 10 days: first by throwing a doggie chew toy at her and then by biting her.
Unexpected Facebook message the other night: an old friend from middle school delivered a thumpin' to her husband and was arrested for assault and battery. I don't know the circumstances at all -- not that that really matters. It's domestic violence and it's wrong and it's not the way for a couple to solve a conflict. But I'd be lying if I didn't admit I am fascinated.
Women and video games: when you think of them together, a huge-breasted, hot-bodied Lara Croft-like vixen probably comes to mind. But the United Nation Population Fund seeks to change all that -- at least in one video game -- in a game that will encourage young boys not to use domestic violence (DV) to solve disputes. College students in Vermont teamed up with two media organizations to create the game, which will be targeted towards children in Cape Town, South Africa. According to one senior, who traveled to Africa to interview kids about their views on DV, young boys need education and reinforcement about respecting women and not using violence.
Apparently, a New Mexico woman is being held in police custody for stabbing her BF. What's so special about that? Well, she tried to "shank" him (his words, not ours) because she was sure he was the male actor in the porn that they were watching. On a Wednesday. At 10:30 in the morning.