Breaking Free From a Family History of Domestic Abuse
January 18, 1996: I remember that day as clearly as if it were yesterday. It was the day I left Jason. The day I was to start a new life. I was standing outside the back of the office building where I worked in Buckhead (Atlanta). I was waiting for him to pick me up from work. He had my car; it was our only car left after the other one had been repossessed. I had lost everything, including but not limited to my self-esteem. That had gone long ago. Yes, it was the day I would end a seven year relationship filled with lies, betrayal, de
Notorious murderer Jodi Arias - honest talk about abuse, the death penalty and forgiveness
I awoke to two sickening and unfortunately not too shocking headlines, “OJ Simpson going to speak to law schools on tour and is excited to get on with his life” and “Will Jodi Arias plead for her life?”
Verbal abuse is a kind of battering that does not leave evidence.
Verbal abuse is a kind of battering that does not leave evidence.In public he is one man, in private he is another. Subtle dimishing or anger outbursts, cool indifference or one-upmanship, witty sarcasm or silent withholding, manipulatie coercion, or unreasonable demands are common occurrences.There are no witnesses to her reality therefore no one can understand her experience. The abuser is seen as a really nice guy and certainly he sees himself as one.
I decided to write about an extremely important issue that effects many relationships and can help you identify if you’re in an abusive relationship. I’ve worked with several individuals that report their partner having a “temper problem.” Usually when I hear this description, I know there is likely more to the picture. Being in a relationship that has elements of domestic abuse may be hard to identify, especially for the individuals who are currently in the relationship.
My story of abuse, and how people could have helped me leave him earlier.
The other day I got a call from a worried parent, concerned about her 17-year-old daughter who is in an abusive relationship. She asked about what she could do and how she could get her daughter away from him. A question I am sure is mirrored by lots of worried parents, friends or co-workers who know someone they care about is in an abusive relationship but don't know what to do about it. I thought long and hard before I answered this parent and I just said, "Be there for her."
Just because he isn't physically violent doesn't mean you aren't being abused.
October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and while most women would agree that physical violence has no part in a love relationship, what are more subtle signs that you are not being treated well?
Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them)
In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social expectations (expectations the people around you have about marriage) and myths (common beliefs not based on fact.)
Myths and Expectations about Fighting