When You Must Leave
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When You Must Leave

I am often amazed that a woman who has been beaten will not or cannot leave the batterer.  Leaving would be the most instinctual and self protective thing to do.  In my clinical practice I’ve heard women make excuses for the batterer and talk about the times when it is really good between them.  Usually such times are referred to as the making up, honeymoon period.  From where I sit, this is a lull that lasts roughly six weeks between episodes.  When the beating stops there is overwhelming relief, and often a powerful high.  He is attentive, contrite a

Dear Dr. Romance: I was reduced to a house maid
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Dear Dr. Romance: I was reduced to a house maid

Dear Dr. Romance: I fell in love and married a man from another city. We have been married for three years. I lived with his family, which included his parents and his three younger sisters, plus children. In my eastern culture, we mostly live with our inlaws. My mother in law's behavior was never nice towards me has gotten worse. She and her daughters constantly complain, find fault and lie to my husband about me. I have been patient until now, when his mother started cursing me.

How We Teach Men To Abuse Women In Relationships
Seems innocent, but something deeper is at play here.
CharlesJOrlando

How We Teach Men To Abuse Women

We're constantly sending children subliminal messages that not only is it OK to abuse woman — it's what they want. So what happens when these kids grow up and enter into relationships of their own? You guessed it… and it isn't pretty.

Abusive Relationships: Why Emma Roberts Needs To Dump Evan Peters
Just end it already, Emma!
Celebrity Love

Emma Roberts Under Arrest! Why She Needs To Dump Evan Peters

Creating a little American Horror Story of their own, America's sweetheart—rather Julia Roberts' niece Emma Roberts—was recently arrested for domestic violence after allegedly getting into an altercation with her co-star boyfriend, Evan Peters. The couple originally met when they starred together in Adult World, which released this year. And in comparison to her previous relationship with Glee's Chord Overstreet, she's kept it cool and quiet with this new beau.

Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Tools for the Journey
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Leaving an Abusive Relationship: Tools for the Journey

My last post about domestic violence discussed the importance of staying safe and realizing the impact technology can play in the lives of victims. But what if you have decided to leave?  It is not just the harrowing decision to leave that becomes challenging, but the emotional battlefield you find yourself on once the decision is made. The important kudo is that you know you must leave or you already have left. Making that decision is the most important self-nurturing decision you can make.