When the holidays hit for the kids of divorced parents, stress and guilt can hit hard, and they may not enjoy it at all. To make your kids' holidays fun and full of love, check out these parenting tips for single parents or blended families!
It's hard for kids to watch their divorced parents date new people. Even harder: tagging along on their parents' romantic getaway. In this new movie, Pam (Toni Collette) takes her 14-year-old son Duncan (Liam James) to Cape Cod, where they live with Pam's new boyfriend Trent (Steve Carrell). But the "vacation" is anything but relaxing, mainly because of the tension between Trent and Duncan. So here are some takeaways for divorced parents!
These days, with the divorce rate hovering close to 50%, the likelihood of dating a man with children is pretty high. As I discuss in Dating the Divorced Man, dating a divorced dad has many unique challenges that you won’t face with childless men. However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number, as each divorced dad is different and you may find one you really connect with.
I’ve often found the title “co-parenting” somewhat of a humorous irony, a conundrum. Think about it. Here you have two people that just went through an emotionally hurtful process of divorce and in many instances despise each other. Then it is suggesting that they be calm enough to have a mature conversation about parenting. It’s like the democrats and republicans suddenly compromising to prevent the fiscal cliff after four years of resentment.
I am a firm believer that divorce can be a really wonderful thing for children as they no longer have to put up with a relationship that is going sour day in, day out. There is however, a false assumption that children need to be with both parents, and I actually don’t think this is true either. Who is to say that staying in an unhappy marriage is less harmful as taking action to end it?
Both my mother and my sisters are divorced and I am too. However, I don't believe that my mother's predicament could have predicted our divorces. Afterall divorce is not genetic as some may believe. There are plenty of people who have divorced parents, and the numbers keep on growing. But does this mean that their children will end up in the same predicament? Not necessarily. There are plenty of couples that have divorced parents who are happily married and have no desire to divorce.
"We're set," my ex shouted. Still lingering in memories, I headed toward the passenger door as if I was going on the trip. But, there was a woman in my seat.
The word “co-parenting” can be a detriment. It is a mushy and loving word, but many people in these situations are not feeling mushy and loving. As a divorced co-parenting teacher and therapist, I often hear comments like: “It is absurd to think that we are ‘co-parenting’-- my ex is a bully and has no interest in compromising and communicating. How do you co-parent with someone who has no interest in co-parenting?”
Anyone who has ever tried to coparent with someone after a breakup or divorce knows that it's… kind of the worst thing ever.
With divorce rates in America topping over 50%, the sad truth is that many parents will be faced with telling their children they are getting divorced. Divorce can have negative effects on children, but based on how it is handled, divorce can also have the potential of making family situations better. Kids are smart. Because the relationship has likely already shown signs of trouble, the news may not come as a complete shock to them. Some kids may even feel a confusing sense of relief. How and when to tell children is an important factor, however. Here are some guidelines to help.
Everybody manscape now. What was your first time like? What is the first year of marriage "really" like? The importance of sexual chemistry. The truth about being a bridesmaid. How to have a quickie and not get caught. When is chivalry a little too much? The porn industry is mandating condom use. Great, non-hormonal birth control methods. Does your parents' failure at marriage doom you? Never date a guy named "Tom."
Your parents divorced when you were just a kid. You remember the arguing, then the moving out and eventually going to two separate places to celebrate the holidays. It's a tough thing for any son or daughter, young or old, to go through. Now, you're worried that your parents' problems will crop up in your own relationship and everything will end the same way. How do you avoid this? My Husband And I Fight All The Time; Is Our Marriage Failing?