"We're set," my ex shouted. Still lingering in memories, I headed toward the passenger door as if I was going on the trip. But, there was a woman in my seat.
The word “co-parenting” can be a detriment. It is a mushy and loving word, but many people in these situations are not feeling mushy and loving. As a divorced co-parenting teacher and therapist, I often hear comments like: “It is absurd to think that we are ‘co-parenting’-- my ex is a bully and has no interest in compromising and communicating. How do you co-parent with someone who has no interest in co-parenting?”
Marriages will either end in death or divorce. Even picture-perfect marriages have the potential to end in the latter. It can take the smallest thing to spark the idea of divorce; those seemingly innocuous mistakes made at the worst possible moment can undermine a lifetime of love and affection.
Whether you've already started dating after divorce, or you're about to take the plunge, chances are good you're going to be tempted to give in to three behaviors that will sabotage either your ability to move on from your marriage, or seriously reduce the chance you'll find a wonderful new man. Here are three post-divorce dating dangers and how you can avoid them.
Going through a divorce is one of the most painful things for anyone to experience. I can relate from my own personal divorce drama. The day my ex threatened to call the cops because my parents took my son to church, made me wonder, how could it ever get this bad? There were days I felt like I should make a guest appearance on the Jerry Springer show. Getting divorced and going through separation, with children, a once shared home, and pets, is painful and confusing. But it can also be a great teacher.
Just as in death and dying, there are emotional stages people go through during a divorce. Mostly these stages pertain to the person who didn't initiate the divorce, although some of them are applicable even if you did initiated it. Depending upon each individual, a person can skip stages, get stuck in some, or move on only to revisit previous stages. These stages do not represent a neat and clean progression through divorce but it will give you an idea where you are and where you want to get to so you can be happy again.
You've done everything you can to make the marriage work. You've been to more than one marriage counselor, you've read every book on how to make a marriage great, and you've struggled with the consequences for both you and your children on calling it quits. You've come to the painful conclusion that no matter how much you want your marriage to work, it simply does not. You submit to the reality of divorce and you're ready to take that final step out of your marriage and into the unknown territory of navigating a divorce.
Since the announcement last week, many people are speculating about what made Katie Holmes file for divorce from Tom Cruise. She appeared to have everything a girl could dream of: an amazing career, a devilishly handsome husband, a beautiful daughter and more money than a person could spend in a lifetime. What was Katie's deciding factor? Here are two possible answers.
Kim and Kanye? A match not necessarily made in heaven. Although Kim is very attractive, Kanye looks like he is always chewing on jawbreakers. I would hate to see that baby. I know it's messed up, but you have to match apples with apples and oranges with oranges, and you have to consider what your kids are going to look like.
My Mom is going through her second divorce and I know most would say how sad, but I couldn't be happier for her and the decision she has made. Her soon to be ex was the most conniving, arrogant and dysfunctional man I have ever met in my life. With that being said unfortunately for her she has gone through a lot with him, because of how dysfunctional he is.
For divorce to be a collaborative and respectful process, the couple must be prepared to separate their lives on all levels — legally, practically, and emotionally. To do this, each person must face their own divorce dilemma by answering the following eight questions:
In Part 1 of this series, we addressed the question of “Why?” "Why did my “heterosexual” partner marry me when he/she knew they were gay/lesbian?" This question has been asked numerous times throughout history as many a man and woman have come out to their beloveds. The answers to this question are as varied and unique as the individuals who taken this road less traveled.
For many people, separating from a life-partner is the single most tragic and painful event of their lives. Recovering from such a blow is rarely an easy or pleasant process. Watching a close friend go through the divorce process presents its own set of problems. You want to help, but it can be extremely difficult to approach your friend—an individual with whom you are accustomed to sharing considerably happier times—in this period of profound anger, sorrow, and/or uncertainty.
So, your divorce is final, and the realization of your new-found freedom came rushing up on you like a locomotive. That alone is a lot to adjust to. But once you've settled into your new status as a single woman, the next question isn't easy, either. How soon is too soon to start dating again?
In intimate relationships the key to making it last is constant CONNECTION, not necessarily communication. Based on brain chemistry, and what we understand from functional MRIs... --Did you know that for women connecting means that she needs to feel heard, appreciated, and safe? --Did you know that for men connecting means that he feels like he is the provider and protector? If you can figure out how your partner feels connected, then it will help you to stay intimate. When I talk about connection, I am refering to that feeling of being loved.