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Does Valentines Day Depress You?

As Valentine’s Day approaches divorced women are wondering how they deal with it, a day that is devoted to romance and love.  Divorced women often report that their pain of loss increases as they are bombarded with images of hearts and flowers everywhere they look. They cannot even walk inside of a grocery store without seeing big white teddy bears holding large red heart candy boxes. To make matters worse, it appears that there are happy couples everywhere!

A Divorced Dad's Guide To Holiday Happiness [EXPERT]
Don't let divorce ruin your holiday season.
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A Divorced Dad's Guide To Holiday Happiness

When divorce occurs, traditions of visiting family leave an unfulfilled emptiness regardless of the busy-ness of your schedule. This time of year is hard on divorced dads, especially those recently divorced. The opportunity to see your kids smiling is at best half as much. Divorce can be like putting on a pair of glasses with dark grey lenses — life turns dull, grim and depressing.

Divorce: A Path Of Conscious Evolution
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Divorce: A Path Of Conscious Evolution

I remember the mental numbness the first time I heard the words. A wave of uncomfortable warmth swept through my body. Who I was, the world I knew, the future I saw was shattered like a picture window hit by a large rock. The words were: “I want a divorce”. That was 2006. Since that time, I’ve pursued a path of spirituality. Not because of the divorce, rather because of one of my person values – evolution. As I look back and reflect upon my divorce, I now know that my divorce was a blessing.

10 Differences Dating Widows Vs Divorcees
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10 Differences Dating Widows Vs Divorcees

Six months after my husband died, I decided to venture out into the single’s world. I sauntered into a swanky downtown Chicago restaurant with a divorced female friend. She left me perched on a bar stool to go to the restroom. I stared at the glassware on the shelves behind the bar and a guy suddenly appeared, “So when did you get divorced? I replied, “I didn’t get divorced.” He said, “Well where’s your husband?”

The Key To Overcoming A Painful Divorce [EXPERT]
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The Key To Overcoming A Painful Divorce

The issues that prevent a rapid adjustment to life after divorce are emotion-based and, as such, cannot be solved logically. All we can do is dissolve the disruptive energy they cause. For example, you got divorced and it's painful. You cannot "solve" the problem of divorce because, regardless of what you do, you are still divorced. The pain is the problem.

The Best Way To Get Divorced [EXPERT]
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The Best Way To Get Divorced

Some celebrities have opted for this model because of their need for privacy. There is no court involvement at all. Madonna and Guy Ritchie and Robin Williams and Marsha Garces, among others, have used this model.

3 Things To Know About Dating A Divorced Guy
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3 Things To Know About Dating A Divorced Guy

What should you know about dating a divorced guy? Is it really THAT much more different than dating a man who has never been married? After all, they're both guys and the bottom line is, they are presently single. It's strange how the "label" of being divorced gets a negative reaction for some people, and that somehow there must  have been something "wrong" with the person.

The #1 Sign Your Marriage Won't Last [EXPERT]
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The #1 Sign Your Marriage Won't Last

With half of marriages ending in divorce, we wanted to get to the root of the problem. We surveyed over 100 YourTango Experts to find out the top predictors of divorce so that couples can know—in advance of getting married—whether their union is likely to fail.

Non-Mutual Divorce—I Do, I don't
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Non-Mutual Divorce—I Do, I don't

Non-Mutual Divorce: I Do... I Don't Micki McWade, LMSW     The chances of a husband and wife sitting at the breakfast table and one says "I want a divorce" and the other says "Okay, let's do it," are slim to none. Usually, one person will initiate and the other will resist. The degree of resistance ranges from letting go reluctantly to fighting it all the way.

Attracting Love through Self-Reflection
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Attracting Love through Self-Reflection

How many times have you felt blamed by your partner for something that you felt really had nothing to do with you?  And how many times have you responded with anger toward the person who triggered you emotionally? While this is normal human behavior, it leads to a loss of trust and intimacy that, over time leads to couples growing apart as they build "protective shields" around their hearts to block the pain of personal attack.  There's only so many of these kinds of incidents a person can take before they start to emotionally leave the relationship.