As Valentine’s Day approaches divorced women are wondering how they deal with it, a day that is devoted to romance and love. Divorced women often report that their pain of loss increases as they are bombarded with images of hearts and flowers everywhere they look. They cannot even walk inside of a grocery store without seeing big white teddy bears holding large red heart candy boxes. To make matters worse, it appears that there are happy couples everywhere!
The traditions, the families, the expectations, the disappointments. If you are facing your first (or second, or … ) holiday season after a separation or divorce, all of these challenges get magnified — and the joy can often seem elusive.
With the recent disclosures from General David Petraeus — who resigned as head of the CIA after admitting to an extramarital affair with his biographer — stacked on top of all the other recent political figures who have cheated on their spouses, I'm asking the question, "What are men looking for when they cheat?"
When divorce occurs, traditions of visiting family leave an unfulfilled emptiness regardless of the busy-ness of your schedule. This time of year is hard on divorced dads, especially those recently divorced. The opportunity to see your kids smiling is at best half as much. Divorce can be like putting on a pair of glasses with dark grey lenses — life turns dull, grim and depressing.
I remember the mental numbness the first time I heard the words. A wave of uncomfortable warmth swept through my body. Who I was, the world I knew, the future I saw was shattered like a picture window hit by a large rock. The words were: “I want a divorce”. That was 2006. Since that time, I’ve pursued a path of spirituality. Not because of the divorce, rather because of one of my person values – evolution. As I look back and reflect upon my divorce, I now know that my divorce was a blessing.
Six months after my husband died, I decided to venture out into the single’s world. I sauntered into a swanky downtown Chicago restaurant with a divorced female friend. She left me perched on a bar stool to go to the restroom. I stared at the glassware on the shelves behind the bar and a guy suddenly appeared, “So when did you get divorced? I replied, “I didn’t get divorced.” He said, “Well where’s your husband?”
By GalTime Lead Ambassador, Yakima/Tri-Cities, Jenny Tiegs, for GalTime.com Divorce is an emotional thing. It's also an expensive thing. Online divorce services promise a simple and quick solution to help couples move on quickly and less expensively. Is it worth it to skip the attorneys and court time and opt for an online divorce instead?
The issues that prevent a rapid adjustment to life after divorce are emotion-based and, as such, cannot be solved logically. All we can do is dissolve the disruptive energy they cause. For example, you got divorced and it's painful. You cannot "solve" the problem of divorce because, regardless of what you do, you are still divorced. The pain is the problem.
What should you know about dating a divorced guy? Is it really THAT much more different than dating a man who has never been married? After all, they're both guys and the bottom line is, they are presently single. It's strange how the "label" of being divorced gets a negative reaction for some people, and that somehow there must have been something "wrong" with the person.
With half of marriages ending in divorce, we wanted to get to the root of the problem. We surveyed over 100 YourTango Experts to find out the top predictors of divorce so that couples can know—in advance of getting married—whether their union is likely to fail.
Much has been studied and written about Empty Nest Syndrome – the emotional impacts on parents/caregivers after children come of age and leave home. But little has been written, researched, or remedied regarding the emotional impacts and resulting psychological trauma on the non-custodial parent as a result of divorce.
Non-Mutual Divorce: I Do... I Don't Micki McWade, LMSW The chances of a husband and wife sitting at the breakfast table and one says "I want a divorce" and the other says "Okay, let's do it," are slim to none. Usually, one person will initiate and the other will resist. The degree of resistance ranges from letting go reluctantly to fighting it all the way.
How many times have you felt blamed by your partner for something that you felt really had nothing to do with you? And how many times have you responded with anger toward the person who triggered you emotionally? While this is normal human behavior, it leads to a loss of trust and intimacy that, over time leads to couples growing apart as they build "protective shields" around their hearts to block the pain of personal attack. There's only so many of these kinds of incidents a person can take before they start to emotionally leave the relationship.