Only 10 percent of marriages that have experienced infidelity end in divorce. So, what are the real reasons behind it when it DOES happen? Divorce coach and YourTango expert Laura Moilla explains.
She was 40 and had just initiated her divorce. He was 28 and single. They met at a business conference and spent one crazy night together before heading back to their respective lives. She had never done anything like that before, but credits that experience with having given her a much-needed escape from all the doubt, confusion and fear associated with her divorce. It opened the door to possibilities she hadn’t known were there all along. And it was the shock to the system she needed to remind her of all the great things she had forgotten about herself.
Divorce can feel like failure. It can feel like rejection. And it can feel like betrayal. Everything you know is turned upside down. So, it's no surprise that so many people faced with divorce do everything possible not to feel what they're feeling. Divorce Coach Laura Miolla is here to help you change your patterns and get unstuck.
I’ll call her Janet. She spent years of her life married to a man who used emotional abuse to control her. When she had her epiphany and filed for divorce, he threatened her and swore he would take everything that she cherished, including custody of her children. Even after getting a restraining order against him, she was being stalked and intimidated by his wide circle of friends. And she was forced to leave her church where the pastor regularly preached that a wife’s duty was always to support her husband without question.
Blame can play a small part in healing from divorce, but the faster you move past it the faster you'll heal.
Anger? Frustration? Hurt? You're expected to feel those during a divorce. But what about hope, elation or nostalgia? When you're in that place of resentment and loss due to your divorce, it's difficult to believe that you'll ever feel anything different. But you do.
"I decided it wasn't a priority for me to take care of myself because I thought it was my husband's job to do that. I thought he should just know what I needed in the way that I just knew what he needed." If this sounds familiar, this article from divorce coach Karen Finn is a must-read. Are you ready to take the wheel again?
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