Are you worried about how to tell your child's school about your divorce? Read this expert parenting advice about how to help your child through your divorce.
DIVORCE AND KIDS
Annie came to see me in hopes that she could avoid a divorce. The problem was clear and it was her. She is living up to the role of the wicked stepmother in a blended family. The mother of the children died two years before she met their father, Tim. She met Tim while the children, Trip, then seven and Sarah then nine, were visiting their maternal grandparents for the summer at their summer house on Lake Michigan. She and Tim reveled in the private time they had that summer. They developed into a playful, passionate, sexual team.
You may not be able to understand and control your divorce but you can control how it effects your children. It is important to pay extra attention to them and follow this divorce coach advice.
There are just a ton of legal, financial and medical documents you’re expected to keep track of to help protect and provide for you (and your family) in all kinds of different situations. It can be overwhelming to try to understand and manage it all - especially when you're going through the divorce rollercoaster of emotions.
When marriages end there is loss, sadness and devastation in trying to gather the pieces and rebuild your life and your children’s lives. Making it harder than it has to be is unnecessary and only prolongs the pain and agony of the inevitable process known as Divorce.The word itself sounds painful.
Your heart is pounding, it’s racing. Your mind is mush. It’s hard to think. Taking a deep breath, you try not to cry or show any emotion. There is a slight tremor in your hand. You feel like crap and are worried you look like crap. The internal dialogue goes: “Oh please dear God don’t let me cry in front of him! Breathe, just breathe. What if I start crying! I don’t want to cry! I hope he doesn’t look good. Maybe I’ll see him and feel nothing. OK, my coach said just look him in the eye and ask how his trip was. I just have to remember the words.
Father's Day is for dads. That must mean if you're divorced from your kids' father, you can sit back, relax, and not have to worry about organizing gifts and festivities for the day, right? Wrong.
When parents get divorced or separated, there is a tremendous amount of strain put on their new relationship and many times this becomes extremely difficult to handle. In turn, the focus on the children’s mental and emotional health is greatly diminished. That’s why it is extremely important for the parents to transform their relationship, which I call restructuring. It is imperative that parents learn how to co-parent in their new relationship, but imagine how difficult this is for a couple deciding to end their relationship together.
Celebrating Mother's Day as a single mom is not the same as when you were a married mom. And when you're going through a divorce, you might be tempted to just sit out this holiday ... but don't! Recreating these traditions after divorce is important to reassure your kids that you are still a family (even if you and your spouse have split).
"You don’t have to be in love with your spouse to co-parent. You have to be in love with your “children” to co-parent!" I hate her for what she has done to us! I hate him for what he has done to us! STOP! WAIT! LISTEN! Can I interrupt you for a moment and remind the both of you that your DIVORCE is not only about you but also about your “children” and how they are going to survive it. It is perfectly normal to be angry, hurt and outraged at your spouse for the divorce or separation.
Dear Ms. Smith, You don't know me, so let me introduce myself. I'm a therapist who has been working with and writing about blended families for over a decade. As such, I felt compelled to respond to the letter that you wrote to your stepmom friend on your Facebook page on February 16th.
These days, with the divorce rate hovering close to 50%, the likelihood of dating a man with children is pretty high. As I discuss in Dating the Divorced Man, dating a divorced dad has many unique challenges that you won’t face with childless men. However, don’t be too quick to toss out that cute dad’s phone number, as each divorced dad is different and you may find one you really connect with.