DIVORCE ADVICE

This decision about whether to stay in or leave your relationship is important. It is not just you and your partner who will be affected, it is an even more significant decision. These six questions can help you decide whether to stay in or leave your relationship:

For individuals who have suffered the pain of divorce, finding love again can be tremendously challenging. It isn't just the process of getting back into the dating game that is difficult – the heart and mind can create barriers that makes the searching process feel like walking through quicksand: getting nowhere fast.

As if divorce isn't difficult enough, it's often compounded by the judgment of friends and family who may equate divorce with failure and aren't afraid to let you know. So, what's the best way to handle the public scrutiny and all the pressure it brings? And is there a way to make everyone understand that they should ease up on you during this difficult time?

Going through a divorce is one of the most painful things for anyone to experience. I can relate from my own personal divorce drama. The day my ex threatened to call the cops because my parents took my son to church, made me wonder, how could it ever get this bad? There were days I felt like I should make a guest appearance on the Jerry Springer show. Getting divorced and going through separation, with children, a once shared home, and pets, is painful and confusing. But it can also be a great teacher.

By Dr. Ann Gatty for GalTime handling the stress of divorce No one has to tell you that going through a divorce can cause stress. Coping with it can be one of the most difficult life transitions that people experience. You wake up one morning and find that you are suddenly single and stressed.

Just as in death and dying, there are emotional stages people go through during a divorce. Mostly these stages pertain to the person who didn't initiate the divorce, although some of them are applicable even if you did initiated it. Depending upon each individual, a person can skip stages, get stuck in some, or move on only to revisit previous stages. These stages do not represent a neat and clean progression through divorce but it will give you an idea where you are and where you want to get to so you can be happy again.

If you agreed to one or more of these surrogate markers for being stuck on your ex, chances are pretty good that you have not gotten over the divorce or breakup. Thankfully, getting unstuck starts with the awareness that you are stuck. Once recognized, becoming unstuck is simply a matter of developing a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA).

There are reasons that you have come to this. Respect them. Sit in the pain for as long as you need to. Then begin to move on. Let's talk about how to feel better and how to heal. Here are three things that I recommend for anybody who has recently separated or divorced

The notion that marriage is a temporary institution isn't new. Sociologist and futurist Alvin Toffler wrote the best-seller Future Shock in 1970, and with matter-of-fact conviction, he wrote of the rising trend of "trial" or "temporary marriages"—first marriages of young people, lasting three months to three years, and of "serial marriages" that would take place after the dissolution of the "trial marriage," happening at specific turning points in people's lives. Toffler's views hold true today.

Going through a divorce can be similar to experiencing the death of a loved one. Sometimes it is quick and sudden or slow and gradual. In any case, the person you dreamed about growing old with is no longer a part of your everyday life. This is a huge loss no matter how dysfunctional the relationship was. Not only have you lost your life companion, but your sense of security, financial stability, parenting partner, and much more.

Kim Karshashian; Katy Perry and Russel Brand; and now Tom Cruise—Katie Holmes’ divorce from the actor is only the latest in celebrity breakups. Holmes recently quietly filed for separation and continues to remain mum about her reasons for divorce. With the announcement comes the endless parade of analysis, insider information from “close anonymous sources,” and wild theories. 

Since the announcement last week, many people are speculating about what made Katie Holmes file for divorce from Tom Cruise. She appeared to have everything a girl could dream of: an amazing career, a devilishly handsome husband, a beautiful daughter and more money than a person could spend in a lifetime. What was Katie's deciding factor? Here are two possible answers.

Kim and Kanye? A match not necessarily made in heaven. Although Kim is very attractive, Kanye looks like he is always chewing on jawbreakers. I would hate to see that baby. I know it's messed up, but you have to match apples with apples and oranges with oranges, and you have to consider what your kids are going to look like.

News Flash: Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise are divorcing. Many stories have indicated that Katie filed the divorce papers secretly, and Tom was blindsided with the news. Many people are asking why. While I don't know Katie and her reasons for using this tactic, I have talked to many women over the years and have witnessed multiple reasons to be secretive and careful when considering divorce.

It is reported that Tom Cruise was shocked when Katie Holmes filed for divorce. The decision to break up a family when the children are young is such a serious one, I hope that Katie tried everything she could to keep her family together before making this decision. If Tom was truly shocked, then we know at least two things: 1. Katie is a hell of an actress and 2. He was missing signals that were loud and clear ... at least in her mind.

My Mom is going through her second divorce and I know most would say how sad, but I couldn't be happier for her and the decision she has made. Her soon to be ex was the most conniving, arrogant and dysfunctional man I have ever met in my life. With that being said unfortunately for her she has gone through a lot with him, because of how dysfunctional he is.