By Allison Pescosolido MA and Andra Brosh PhD for GalTime With just the click of a button, we can "unfriend" people from Facebook, ejecting them from our daily lives without a second thought. Wouldn’t it be nice if you could just “unfriend” your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend in real time.. the same way you can on Facebook?
Do you ever look at other people and wonder why some marriages work, and some just don’t work like Courtney Cox and David Arquette's? What’s the key, and where can you get one? I will let you know what the key is by the end of this article. While bets are out on whether teen star 19-year old Miley Cyrus and her fiancé will last given her young age and maturity level, don’t let your marriage be part of the divorce statistics.
Do You Want to Get Married and He Doesn’t? Single Moms Want Marriage “I want to get married and he doesn’t.” “I want to get engaged now!” “How do I get him to commit?” “How can he say he loves me and the kids, but won’t make it legal?” “I want to get married now.”
Divorce is not easy for anyone, and it can be especially difficult for children. Kids experience the acute scrambling of their world, while their parents wrestle with their complex emotions. With both parents in distress, or one parent suddenly missing, family love is torn asunder, and the children often experience confusion, terror, pain, anger and grief.
Fran, after 26 years of marriage, had decided to divorce Harry. She had consulted an attorney, told her mother and sister, put Harry on notice and then her two teenage daughters called a family meeting and insisted that their mother and father get counseling. Fran described Harry as a negative person who found fault with almost everything she did. She felt blamed by Harry for almost anything that went wrong in their lives and for Harry a lot went wrong.
Jessica can't deny it anymore. She's tried to pretend that her marriage to Doug is just fine. She's held out hope that the prickly dynamics between she and Doug would soon pass. After their most recent argument, Jessica stopped pretending. For the first time in a long while, she could fully see-- and feel-- how far apart she and Doug have become. She has been asking friends and searching online for referrals for a coach that she and Doug could work with and maybe save their marriage...before it ends in divorce. She hopes it isn't too late.
Divorce and Childrearing: How Parents Can Nurture and Protect Their Kids Most parents who are in the process of considering or pursuing divorce are deeply worried about the effects the divorce will have on their children. And the concern is justified. Divorce is one of the most difficult life events that you and your children will ever experience, according to the well validated Holmes and Rahe Stressful Life Events Scale created by the two psychiatric researchers in 1967.
Mother’s Day is one of the many holidays that can be re-created after divorce. You are not bound by old rituals or routine like going to Mother’s Day brunch every year. You can create novel ways to spend the day based on your own passions and desires. If Mother’s Day has never been your thing, you have the option to not celebrate it at all. It’s all about you when you don’t have the obligations of a husband and in-laws. You can even ignore it all together.
When things don't work out between you and the person you married, you suffer internally, agonizing over a new life without each other, reminiscing about the way he once made you feel. Then, it hits you: what about your children? What happens to them?
As women, we typically give, and want, more in relationships than men. We want nice homes and solid families, not just some roof over our heads and a bunch of people co-existing together~although that sure would be easier. Nope, we want connection, we want the fairy tale, and we want it all~but we aren't driven to nurture unconditionally as everyone expects, we just don’t admit that out loud. Women need to start honoring the conditions nature instilled in us, though, because it is women who carry the burden with the disadvantages when things head south.
There you are sitting in your lovely office in your favorite chair enjoying the serenity of the moment. Your office light goes on, and within a few minutes a couple walks in for their first mediation session. As soon as they sit down you can feel a tension in the room that you'd have to be numb not to recognize. In a short time the calmness you were experiencing will most likely become only a memory.
Is it taking you longer than you expected to get over your ex? If it's been over a year and you still feel despondent on your old anniversary, take heart: you're not alone. In this video, psychotherapist, author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov offers advice to one reader who still struggles with her breakup long after it's ended.
From Galtime.com Divorce can be painful and difficult, but according to Divorce Detox experts Allison Pescosolido, M.A. and Andra Brosh, Ph.D-- it doesn't have to be. GalTime caught up with the divorce therapy specialists learn about a more positive way to approach divorce.