Did you know that you can LEVERAGE your breakup? Leverage? You bet! Now that you finally broke up with the guy, you are ready for Mr. Right, right? WRONG! The worst thing you can do is to get yourself hooked up before you have detoxed yourself from the drama and trauma that you have stored in your heart and mind. I know it seems like HE is the bad guy, but it is YOUR heart where all the pain is stored.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, what’s my greatest gift of all? As difficult as it may be to heart, your ex and your break-up is a huge gift to you. Even in the most excruciatingly painful lessons in life lie gifts; it’s just a matter of us becoming aware of them. No matter how you feel about your relationship right now, I suggest that you begin to see it as one of the greatest gifts that you have ever received. This gift is that your ex, your experience in the relationship, and even the fact that it ended can help you become a more evolved person.
POST-DIVORCE STRESS SYNDROME!! This is the hardest part of divorce. Figuring out the “What now?” After all, you thought you had it all figured out, but then the child support check is always late, your ex doesn’t always take the kids on his or her weekends, and you are always left holding the bag. You cry, you scream, you rail on the unfairness of being a single divorced parent and having to do it all. But, isn’t this what you were singing about earlier that month?
January is the coldest month of the year, and, apparently, the Arctic vibe extends beyond the temperature. The first month of the New Year is reportedly the most popular time of year to file for divorce. Rumor has it that January is ominously nicknamed "Divorce Month" in legal circles. It makes sense. The holidays are hectic, and relationship issues can come into sharper focus when stressed-out couples spend more time together. But is January's bad rap really deserved?
The great American philosopher, Yogi Berra, once said, “Be careful, you don’t want to make the wrong mistake.” Nowhere is that more true than in the area of divorce advice. Yogi also said, “90% of this game is half mental.” Also true if you are contemplating, or involved in, a divorce. Almost always, the mindset of the people involved in the divorce is what will eventually dictate the length, complexity and difficulty of the action. If you want to end your marriage as cheaply and as painlessly as possible, do yourself a favor and heed well this advice.
Most who decide to divorce make the mistake of not familiarizing themselves with exactly what that means legally. Emotions rule our decision to divorce but legality rules what will happen once the decision to divorce is made. United States Divorce Laws I urge you to study the divorce laws of your state. To learn what the divorce process is like in your state and to arm yourself with the knowledge needed to protect yourself during the legal divorce process.
Dating Coach / Relationship Coach DeAnna Lorraine ("Ms. Hitch") in light of the new announcement made by celebrities Courtney Cox & David Arquette that they have officially decided to do a 'Trial Separation,' discusses her thoughts on whether a separation is a god move or not and how to make it a smooth and successful one that can actually SAVE your marriage.
When it comes to marriage, the news is often doom and gloom these days. Turn on your TV or open the newspaper or your computer, and it's not long before you're reading about another explosive celebrity divorce. Troll the web for some marriage or divorce advice, and you're likely to find a whole lot of theories about why more and more marriages are failing. And certain groups of us who want to marry are having to fight tooth and nail for the right. And how many times have you been reminded that half of all marriages end in divorce? With such depressing news, it's easy to think, what's the point of even walking down that aisle?
"What Your Divorce Lawyer May Not Tell You: 125 Questions Every Woman Should Ask" is a new book by Mary Rubin. Rubin is a divorcee and the founder of DivorceSource, "the country's first consulting firm specializing in the practical issues of divorce." The book is about the practical, not emotional side of a divorce, and looks like a good resource for women who are in the early-to-mid stages of divorce. It won't answer all your questions but it will give you a basic understanding of how divorce works and will probably help you decide how to move forward.