The word “co-parenting” can be a detriment. It is a mushy and loving word, but many people in these situations are not feeling mushy and loving. As a divorced co-parenting teacher and therapist, I often hear comments like: “It is absurd to think that we are ‘co-parenting’-- my ex is a bully and has no interest in compromising and communicating. How do you co-parent with someone who has no interest in co-parenting?”
Marriages will either end in death or divorce. Even picture-perfect marriages have the potential to end in the latter. It can take the smallest thing to spark the idea of divorce; those seemingly innocuous mistakes made at the worst possible moment can undermine a lifetime of love and affection.
5 Tips to Break the News to Your Child That You’re Getting Divorced Getting divorced can be overwhelming, add a child into the mix and now it can be even more scary. Divorce has many impacts on a child’s life, some good and some bad. It’s important to remember that as a parent your child is looking to you as being the expert. Do your research before spilling the beans.
Whether you've already started dating after divorce, or you're about to take the plunge, chances are good you're going to be tempted to give in to three behaviors that will sabotage either your ability to move on from your marriage, or seriously reduce the chance you'll find a wonderful new man. Here are three post-divorce dating dangers and how you can avoid them.
One of the most damaging things you can do to your child is to use them as an object of your anger. Here is a list of dos and don'ts that can assist you in parenting in a way that best protects your children while you are going through your divorce.
Divorce is so common these days that it boggles the mind. Of course things change with the passing of time, and no one expects everything to be the same, but divorce 50 years ago compared to now is a completely different animal. It's more common for sure, but also more socially acceptable, considered more healthy, definitely more likely, and considerably more possible than ever before.
One of the hardest things to do in any relationship after a breakup or divorce is to say good-bye and accept that it has ended. Moving on is something that you have to do, but when the pain and heartache is fresh, it's hard to know how to handle a breakup or divorce. Your brain is foggy from the shock and you can't see past the feelings of rejection you are swimming in. So what steps can you take to ease your pain?
Letting go of anger isn't easy; it latches on and won't let go. However, there are far more reasons to permanently release this negative emotion than to cling to it. Here are six ways to leave your anger behind so you can be more at peace after divorce.
There are many times when a child after divorce is struggling — even suffering. These children need extra help. To identify a child in distress, you need to evaluate whether there have been serious changes in their behavior and personality. It is not a complete change of personality, but a more extreme version of how they were acting before the divorce. Some examples are ...
This decision about whether to stay in or leave your relationship is important. It is not just you and your partner who will be affected, it is an even more significant decision. These six questions can help you decide whether to stay in or leave your relationship:
For individuals who have suffered the pain of divorce, finding love again can be tremendously challenging. It isn't just the process of getting back into the dating game that is difficult – the heart and mind can create barriers that makes the searching process feel like walking through quicksand: getting nowhere fast.
As if divorce isn't difficult enough, it's often compounded by the judgment of friends and family who may equate divorce with failure and aren't afraid to let you know. So, what's the best way to handle the public scrutiny and all the pressure it brings? And is there a way to make everyone understand that they should ease up on you during this difficult time?
Going through a divorce is one of the most painful things for anyone to experience. I can relate from my own personal divorce drama. The day my ex threatened to call the cops because my parents took my son to church, made me wonder, how could it ever get this bad? There were days I felt like I should make a guest appearance on the Jerry Springer show. Getting divorced and going through separation, with children, a once shared home, and pets, is painful and confusing. But it can also be a great teacher.
Just as in death and dying, there are emotional stages people go through during a divorce. Mostly these stages pertain to the person who didn't initiate the divorce, although some of them are applicable even if you did initiated it. Depending upon each individual, a person can skip stages, get stuck in some, or move on only to revisit previous stages. These stages do not represent a neat and clean progression through divorce but it will give you an idea where you are and where you want to get to so you can be happy again.