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Today, as women everywhere breathe heavy over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel that explores BDSM — the consensual use of bondage, discipline and power fantasy role play — I actually find myself breathing a little easier. Why? Because this is something I experienced in real life after I got divorced.
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Anyone who has ever owned a dog knows that training something that does not speak your language is all about voice tone and behavioral rewards. If the dog gets a treat when he does the trick you want, what does your son get when he does his trick?
My husband and I seem to parent our children differently based on their genders, a tendency I never expected, being the enlightened and empowered woman I am. (“Roar” and all that.) Once we had both a boy and a girl, though, this tendency became obvious.
I am a stepmom. It's only been a short time and I'm still getting used to it. It's not easy. I didn't have children of my own when my husband and I got married, so my first experience parenting has been with his 7-year-old son. Discipline is hard for a parent to enforce, but how do you go about it when the child isn't your own?
I love how calmly my husband reacts when his car is broadsided by a bicycle. I love how he’s ready to hug me well before I’m done yelling during a fight. But I don't love how his chill approach to life has him giving the kids a raised eyebrow and a head shake when I think they need a timeout. Honestly? Sometimes it sucks being the heavy. Every once in awhile, I'd like to be the one letting the kids off the hook while he enforces the discipline. It just never works out that way.
Yes. No. In my mothering lexicon, these are each complete sentences and everyone in my house knows it. Sure, I'm all for conversation, dialogue, discussion and open lines of communication. My husband and I like a good game of verbal volleyball, and we'll talk with our kids about almost anything. But I also reserve the right to not discuss, to sometimes employ just one word. Or make that two. No. Or, yes. Sometimes I don’t even explain. That's okay.
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A dude from TN was left for 20 hours by his wife in a bound and gag positioned. Naturally this was a problem. The man asphyxiated at some point. And she's being held for reckless homicide. Let's all start using a little common sense when we put someone in a death-inducing position.
A Canadian chap claims that he's being discriminated against by their version of the DMV. His rationale is that he's a pagan and practices Sadism & Masochism. He thinks that his religion, sexuality, or both are being suppressed. He may have a point, a Human Rights Tribunal will decide.
What’s the first step in exploring S&M? Change the way you think. What exactly constitutes as S&M and are you comfortable enough in your sexual relationship to try it? Ky Henderson clears up misconceptions and speaks to couples who agree that it is a new way to build trust and explore ways to potentially liven up a “vanilla” sex life.
