Good-looking daters actually expect free meals?! Well... yeah. Pretty much, says a new study. According to the Sydney Morning Herald, researchers from the University of St. Andrews placed 245 men and 171 women in hypothetical dating scenarios. First, the subjects were asked to judge their own attractiveness—how pretty or handsome they imagined themselves to be. Then, the participants were shown 12 photos of potential dates, some beautiful and some unattractive, and were asked to decide who they would rather have pick up the tab if they went for dinner. Most subjects were totally fine with splitting the check, as 47 percent of men and 50 percent of women said they would prefer such a situation. However, of the men and women who thought themselves attractive, a trend emerged: they were more likely to want their dates to foot the bills instead of chipping in.
Okay, guys, I realize you may be getting a bit confused by now, with the “old” feminism and the “new” feminism. In the old school way of thinking, the man always paid the tab, whether it was the first date or the tenth date, right? Then came feminism. In that way of thinking, it might have offended a woman if you did things like open the door for her, let alone pay the tab.
My husband and I, and our two sons, ages 12 and 16, eat dinner together every night. As a family. At the table. TV, computers and texting not allowed. We talk, argue, laugh, and plan trivial and important stuff. We look one another directly in the eye and speak out loud, often in full sentences. When you sit across the table from your spouse every single night, and you ask about one another's day, and sometimes even put your hand in his, locking eyes and silently smiling over something your kid just said, that's a powerful message. We eat, there's love and, when Aunt Cathy visits, we even pray.
Times are tough and, these days, jobs are lost as regularly as kids lose their baby teeth. In a relationship, when one partner becomes unemployed, it can be a challenge to stay upbeat and supportive. One YourTango user came to us for advice on the matter. We asked the stars of our new series Still Life Love Advice to tell us: how do you save money and your relationship when your love gets laid off?
"V-Day." Sounds more like an invasion of Normandy than a day spent celebrating love and romance. And rightfully so. Sometimes the intricacies of preparing for the holiday resemble war-room strategy more than jubilation.For all us fighters out there, trying to stay strong against our own culture, I have some suggestions. Resistance is fine, but subversion is that much better. Don't cross your arms and insist on having a bad time just to spite everyone else. I don't want to overthrow V-Day. I want to reclaim it.
You know you might be a candidate for Dating A Banker Anonymous if you've suffered any of the following: a. Your Bergdorf's allowance has been halved. b. Bottle service has all but disappeared from your life. c. You depend on your boyfriend for the above indulgences. Such is the premise of the support group and blog that two ex-girlfriends of Wall Street types started after the market—and then their relationships—plunged. When they noticed other women complaining about the enhanced thriftiness, neediness and emotional instability of their banker boyfriends, they decided the girlfriends (dare we call them gold diggers?) needed some newfound support of their own. At informal meetings over cocktails, groups of twentysomething women gather to lament their downtrodden or unemployed I-banking men.