You've heard that opposites attract, but is that attraction enough to hold them together? Marriage and Family Therapist, The Rev. Christopher Smith, discusses the way differences can make a relationship satisfying.
Even when you're crazy about someone, it can often be hard to know if he or she is "right" for you. YourTango has come up with 15 signs that you're dating a soul mate. You don't have to check off all of these points to be sure about someone—but if you can say yes to several, you've found someone very special—possibly someone you could fall in love with.
She tried to fix it herself. Honest. This is another “without fail” story. And if you’re a woman who speaks that binary computer mumbo dot jumbo, spare me. Go fix a good pot roast or something; then we’ll talk. I am not a stupid woman. Even though I have trouble with the times table for seven, I am not diminished; I’ve never had to use 7 x 8 in real life, anyway. Hear me roar.
This week, I was introduced to a little show called "Here Comes Honey Boo Boo." I have heard people joke and make fun of the show but I had never taken time out to pay it any attention. Just hearing the title made me curious enough to ask: What the hell is a "Honey Boo Boo"?
Sometimes love is blind, especially when your partners supports the opposing political party. But, even a loving relationship can combust when those contrasting viewpoints lead to conflicts.
Ladies, please share the following with your men! Part Two - What Men Wish Women Knew in the Bedroom can be found here: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/richard-drobnick-mars-venus-counseling-.... It is obvious that men and women are different physically, but we may not realize how different we are emotionally. It is only through understanding and accepting our less obvious differences that we can achieve sexual intimacy and great sex.
Long term relationships can become routine, boring and stale. Here are a few suggestions to keep the relationship fresh. 1.Choose to look at the whole picture. The glass is half full and half empty ALWAYS. You can choose to look at what makes you unhappy, or you can choose to consider seeing both the glass half empty and half full (which is the real deal). Unless you are seeing the whole perspective, you will not be getting a realistic view.
Have you ever wondered if it would be worth it to be involved in an intercultural relationship? Has it ever fleeted through your mind and, without much consideration, you quickly dismissed with a “no,” not really giving much thought as to why? Have you been involved in an intercultural relationship, and concluded when it ended, that it was because of the cultural differences and doomed from the start? It could have even been the excuse you or your partner used to end it. Maybe you’re contemplating that excuse right now.
There is no one on this earth like me. According to Wikipedia, individuality or selfhood is the state or quality of being an individual; a person separate from other persons and possessing his or her own needs or goals. It means being self expressive and independent. Sounds pretty simple doesn’t it?
Can you remember what was going on in your life from birth to about six years old? Probably not, but rest assured you were doing something that affects you deeply to this very day: forming your attachment style. We form our attachment styles early based on the availability and responsiveness of our parents. When we're young, if our needs are met in a warm, loving, stable environment, then we have a better chance of growing into adults who can attach to others in healthy ways. If our need for support and reassurance was not met, it can lead to problems attaching to others and forging healthy relationships later in life.
We all have our own “weird” factor. For some it’s an obsession with how well they look, for others it’s anxiety about financial security. There are as many “weird” factors as there are people. It’s the way we deal with our anxieties and woundedness. It’s about our genetic code and upbringing. It’s those quirky behaviors and beliefs that are well ingrained, though most likely out of date. In other words, we all have our issues—those neurotic tendencies that show up in our own unique ways.
When we are having a disagreement with our spouse, we may not want to recognize or acknowledge that the very basis for our disagreement is what attracted us to that person in the beginning. I am not talking so much about "opposites attract" as a difference in personality. Perhaps we are forgetting the positive feelings we had for just the personality trait with which we are now upset. We may, over time, decide this personality trait is just not so exciting.
It’s important to remember that it’s our differences that make us interesting to each other. It’s essential that you remember you two are not the same, that you don’t want to be the same, and life would be less interesting if you were too much the same. The trouble is, most of the time it’s the differences that cause most of the problems in a relationship.
He was gung-ho for Obama. You wrote in your vote for Kucinich. You roll your eyes every time Sarah Palin opens her mouth. He hangs onto her every word. When it comes to politics, the two of you are at each other's throats. Is your relationship doomed? Should you give up now? Or is it possible that you just might find some common ground despite your differences, and end up going the distance?