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There is no one on this earth like me. According to Wikipedia, individuality or selfhood is the state or quality of being an individual; a person separate from other persons and possessing his or her own needs or goals. It means being self expressive and independent. Sounds pretty simple doesn’t it?
Does your partner get on your last nerve? Imagine being married for decades. Here's how to keep love alive!
Can you remember what was going on in your life from birth to about six years old? Probably not, but rest assured you were doing something that affects you deeply to this very day: forming your attachment style. We form our attachment styles early based on the availability and responsiveness of our parents. When we're young, if our needs are met in a warm, loving, stable environment, then we have a better chance of growing into adults who can attach to others in healthy ways. If our need for support and reassurance was not met, it can lead to problems attaching to others and forging healthy relationships later in life.
We all have our own “weird” factor. For some it’s an obsession with how well they look, for others it’s anxiety about financial security. There are as many “weird” factors as there are people. It’s the way we deal with our anxieties and woundedness. It’s about our genetic code and upbringing. It’s those quirky behaviors and beliefs that are well ingrained, though most likely out of date. In other words, we all have our issues—those neurotic tendencies that show up in our own unique ways.
When we are having a disagreement with our spouse, we may not want to recognize or acknowledge that the very basis for our disagreement is what attracted us to that person in the beginning. I am not talking so much about "opposites attract" as a difference in personality. Perhaps we are forgetting the positive feelings we had for just the personality trait with which we are now upset. We may, over time, decide this personality trait is just not so exciting.
It’s important to remember that it’s our differences that make us interesting to each other. It’s essential that you remember you two are not the same, that you don’t want to be the same, and life would be less interesting if you were too much the same. The trouble is, most of the time it’s the differences that cause most of the problems in a relationship.
He was gung-ho for Obama. You wrote in your vote for Kucinich. You roll your eyes every time Sarah Palin opens her mouth. He hangs onto her every word. When it comes to politics, the two of you are at each other's throats. Is your relationship doomed? Should you give up now? Or is it possible that you just might find some common ground despite your differences, and end up going the distance?
Halloween costumes. Love 'em. My guy, not so much. We have differences, one of which leads to an idea for this year's perfect costume!
This week it was reported that Elisabeth Moss officially filed for divorce from her husband of less then a year Saturday Night Live actor Fred Armisen. Nobody knows for sure why the two split, but it's rumored that Elisabeth, a Scientologist, was more interested in the religion then her own marriage. Is Scientology toxic to relationships?
The guys from That's What He Said answer several questions from Ask YourTango, where users give and receive relationship advice. In this episode, our man-panel answers questions about sex drive differences, married life and libido.
Evan Marc Katz helps a woman whose fiance is not open to the idea of a prenup.
