Given that springtime is notoriously mating season for us mammals, we've teamed up with our friends at Glo and Chemisty.com, as well as biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., to launch a survey to help us find out what really attracts people to a potential mate, and, perhaps more importantly, what keeps those fires burning year after year. Help us by clicking the link below and filling out the questions that follow. We'll be posting the results soon.
As indicated in my blogger tagline, wellness is also a topic I cover from time to time and discuss in greater depth with my sex life coaching clients. This post is about an all natural powdered sleep aid (mix it up in water) I found through www.drdavidwilliams.com. I have a male client with sleep issues and for him at least, it changed his life. I also list below my research and current understandings of easy ways to improve our sleep. Better sleep for better sex.
Slow sex isn't about endurance, marathon sessions or complicated positions. It's about really being there in the moment, enjoying one another fully. It's about taking the time to touch and to kiss. The point isn't just to have sex, but rather to feel real sensual joy.
My libido has never been particularly off the charts but, lately, I've come to feel that—due to the perpetually barren desert between my legs – I'll never find my way out of this vast Sahara of a sex life. It's disconcerting. It's frustrating. But I'm not the only one. Luckily, you can turn your libido around.
Poll: Are You Satisfied With Your Libido? : My libido is just where I want it to be. I can generally get turned on when I want to, and I'm happy with my level of arousal. My sex drive is out of control—I can't get no satisfaction! Sometimes I feel like a teenage boy. I wish I felt more sexual, but I don't. I don't have, or want, much sex, and that's fine with me, thanks! I'm not sure. Sometimes I feel desire; other times I can't get as turned on as I'd like to.
Intense passion and loving intimacy can co-exist, but most couples struggle to merge erotic sex with tender love. Women don't want to feel objectified to the absence of caring, and couples get bored if their sex lives are completely devoid of heat. Here are six exercses you can try to merge tenderness and sexual heat.
I've learned a few things about love in my time here on Earth, and one of them is that relationships built on sex usually don't last. First, no matter how cool she is, no matter how good-looking she is and no matter how much you dig her, there is someone out there who is sick of her. Second, there is a very good chance that when a guy begins drifting away from a lady, he's just sick of boning her.
Being asexual does not mean that I have no appreciation at all for what is physically beautiful or aesthetically appealing in others. In the past, I have often tried to imagine myself with the people that I have shown some kind of interest in, but I realized in retrospect that this "attraction" was never more than friendly or purely appreciative. I can certainly admire the looks of an attractive person, but I feel no sexual or romantic desire for them.
As her sister edged toward her 40th year, Deidre Fishel noticed a panic slowly building and taking hold of her. She feared the dip in libido that comes along with age. Fishel wanted to see if there was real reason to fear, or if there were older women out there bucking the myth, that they were sexless, cranky old things.
Besides the meaning of life and the ingredients of hot dogs, many a man has questioned "what exactly do women want?" We're not playing coy here, we know we're complex creatures. And, true, we operate on a different wavelength than men. But, woman aren't exactly the great mystery that men often make us out to be. The proof? We polled the YourTango staff and compiled a list of 10 simple things women want.
Imagine a woman: She has a college degree and a job, she pays for her own house and car, and she's not intimidated by any man for any reason. She's smart, independent and strong. Isn't it a puzzle, then, that she has sexual fantasies of being dominated? Actually, researchers say, it makes perfect sense.
Mike Alvear wrote a two-part series on how to tell a man or a woman he or she is bad in bed. For dudes, he suggests they repeatedly ask their ladies what she likes in bed in hopes she'll get the hint and ask what he likes. He also advises bringing up the conversation casually while reading the morning paper (not in bed and definitely not just after sex), and telling a woman what you want more of and not less of. For women, he makes the same suggestions, but advises them to have their conversation side-by-side and not face-to-face since, he says, men are intimidated by eye contact. His advice is OK, but it's a little passive-aggressive. I get that it's a fine line to tiptoe, but with a gentle touch a little constructive criticism never killed a guy. After the jump, five ways to let your guy know his "skills" leave a little to be desired.