Parenting can be exhausting! Here are tips for reducing your stress and refilling your heart.
If you're the parent of a teenager, you know that over-the-top feeling of Parenting Fatigue. You're exhausted from always working to keep tight boundaries, teaching important life lessons, and guarding against all those dangers you hope your teen never has to experience but are afraid they will. You feel the endless requirements of parenting, wonder if this year your teenager will settle into high school, stand up to the bullies, and graciously accept household chores without argument, or if this is just a fantasy you need to let go of.
Don't take it personally? Sometimes it IS personal!
We hear so often, "Don't take it personally." What does this really mean? The answer is NOT simple!
Let's say you are in a great mood, feeling loving and expansive, and someone—either someone close to you or a stranger like a clerk in a store—is withdrawn or attacking.
This powerful process that enables you to heal from childhood abuse & create loving relationships.
In the 43 years I have been counseling individuals, I have worked with many who have suffered from severe physical, emotional, and/or sexual abuse in childhood. Many of those who sought my help were suffering from fear and anxiety, depression, various addictions, relationship problems and sexual problems.
Being present with him through the dark times can make your relationship stronger.
Depression isn't only hard for him — mood disturbances also have a big impact on your relationship. But how do you bring up the subject? As the saying goes, "People don't care what you know until they know that you care." So what can you do to help?
How resisting having a relationship with YOURSELF affects your other relationships.
Dear Dr. Romance:
What is wrong with me? Angry, sad, blah? It's 5 am and I'm still awake. I'm 29, single (I don't mind), I go to school, an ok job, pets. I'm not starving, as long at there's a roof over my head i'm good to go. So many things I really want to do. I get into it then I don't feel like it and do nothing. I sometimes feel a little bit of despair or sadness or anger not too often but enough. Then I go back to being 'ok' and all gung-ho about the future.
Why living alone might not be such a great idea after all.
Wise parents understand the importance of giving their children both roots and wings. Children must learn to stand on their own two feet, to trust their own judgment, to pick up the pieces when they make mistakes and to chart the life course that makes sense to them. However, experience in my own life and my practice along with recent research says that living alone can actually cause depression.
How can you help a friend who you think is self-destructing? Can your friendship & respect save her?
Here's a listener question I received.
Dear Maryanne, One of my best friends has been unhealthily obsessed with the same guy for almost four years (we're now seniors in college). They have hooked up intermittently over this time but have never been on a date or spent any platonic time together. He has never displayed any actual interest in her or her feelings despite it being incredibly obvious that she is very attached. She refuses to show interest in any other person.
Is someone you know hooked on porn? Read this article to help you find out when enough is enough.
Until 1994, if you wanted to view pornography, you had to get dressed, get in your car, drive to a seedy shop in a bad part of town and fork over hard-earned cash for an overpriced magazine ... all the while hoping not to be seen by the neighbor's teenage kid, your boss, the police or your spouse. Today, thanks to streaming video over the Internet and smart-phones, finding porn doesn't even require getting out of bed.
6,000 Products, 250 Million People, Over 90 Medical Conditions Caused By Aspartame. Are You At Risk?
The European Cancer Research Center has called for an urgent review of aspartame and of the U.S. Food and Drug Administration’s (FDA) stance that Aspartame is not a carcinogen. The FDA does report however that 75 percent of the adverse reactions caused by food additives is caused by Aspartame. Aspartame is an artificial sweetener that is commonly called NutraSweet or Equal.
Are you giving yourself up to attempt to make someone else feel happy and secure?
A number of years ago, I had dinner with a lovely couple whom I met through a mutual friend. I connected with Allison (not her real name) immediately. Warm and open, I could see that she was a deeply caring woman. On the other hand, her husband Ken, while overtly charming, had a huge black hole inside that felt like a vacuum cleaner sucking the energy out of everyone. His need for attention was overwhelming to me.