If a woman asks a man out on a date, she is not obligated to buy dinner. I just wanted to clear that up.

Life is all too brief a cosmic commercial break to spend it sending telepathic messages to crushes old and new. In medieval times, sure. 'Twas the men who came calling. But those were the days when women were dragon bait. We live in modern times, so hurry up and ask that special man/bartender/skeeball competitor out. And, again, don't worry about the bill. I've actually been asked this question. The dude will take care of it because … Read More

Last week, we clued you in to 10 dating deal breakers that really aren't—and could be keeping you from the One. Some of you agreed. An awful lot of you thought we were raving lunatic nut jobs. But bear with us. We're only looking out for your best interests—which is why we wanted to bring you 10 more dating deal breakers that, under most circumstances, shouldn't really be considered deal breakers. Because beneath that nervous tic or that crustache or that really ugly shirt is the man of your dreams. You just have to look past superficial details … Read More

On this St. Patrick's day, we want ye to find a mate.

See that cute, single lad or lass across the bar?

Ay! A pot of gold!

Well, put down the car-bomb and make your way over there. Even if you've had a bit too much, relax and let the ultimate social lubricant work its dating magic.

It is no secret that alcohol and dating share a volatile but intimate relationship. In fact, for the most part the two go hand-in-hand. The key is to reach a level of intoxication that has you feeling loose and confident, not nauseated and belligerent. (Read: don't … Read More

Love. Sex. Boys. Girls. The same problems and frustrations again and again. We've been there countless times, wondering when we'll find that ONE, that perfect person we want to stay with forever and ever. Even in a relationship, we reach a point where the person we're with doesn't feel as special as he or she used to. Maybe we start picking at flaws or noticing other people, wondering if we'd be happier with them. And once again, the relationship begins its slow decline. 

What if you could guarantee a spark that lasted—no matter who you were with—and a happier life … Read More

There's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met. Lately though, we've been wondering whether it's better to date a friend, or at least somebody we've known longer than just a couple of weeks, and who knows more about us than just our name and phone number. Sure, the transition from friend-to-boyfriend might feel a little sticky at first, but here are five benefits that overrule the awkwardness: 

1. He's familiar with your bad side.
Let's face it, during the first few months of dating someone new, it's easy to hold yourself together and pretend … Read More

Feeling a little rusty? Psychologist Judith Sills, PhD, recommends three attitude adjustments and a new skill.

1. Be truly single. Don't think: I'm too old, tired, or fat to do this. Do think: I just turned back the clock for a second chance.

2. Lose your agenda. Don't think: I save time by laying out exactly what I want. Do think: Discover the person in front of me.

3. Practice on social-networking sites. Don't think: I have no clue how to relate to a new person. Do think: I can use the internet to learn how to flirt and try out my … Read More

Some women are forever attracted to jerks. Others are great at building healthy relationships with good guys. Still others are addicted to unrequited love. Everyone has a pattern. Me—I find myself, on repeat, forging relationships with men who don't think we're actually dating. In other words, I'm an expert at the "fakelationship." The Frisky: Six Lessons From My Last Breakup That Are Getting Me Through This One

So what exactly is a fakelationship, you ask? If you've ever been in one, you know it. It's a "friendship" where you text, email, talk on the phone, and hang out pretty much … Read More

Since creation, man has been an entity unto himself and woman has been his counterpart. First, God made man; then he made him a girlfriend. Men are the protagonists of our children's stories, the majority of our doctors, generals and CEO's, the president, Jesus, God, Allah and Buddha. All "men" are created equal. To deny that man is the dominant gender is to deny our vernacular, religion, culture and art.

It's no surprise, then, that men traditionally perceive themselves as fully functioning individuals with or without a partner. Men want and seek long-term companionship, but … Read More

They say it is better to give than to receive. When "they" are real-live scientists, it must be true! A recent study gathered 150 women and 155 men, and asked them to rank the attractiveness of various people's dating profiles. Profiles that revealed volunteer activities, altruism and all-around generosity were ranked as more attractive than neutral or stingy-seeming people. Now, this info related to people evaluating others for long-term relationship potential. Women still appreciated kindness in short-term prospects but men, well they didn't really care so much. So feel free to be a pill with guys you want short-term … Read More

Last week I suggested some places to meet men if you're looking for a keeper. This week I'm going to tell you how to tell if a guy likes you.

Say you followed my advice, took a Thai cooking class, ignored the hottest guy (who all the other women flirted with) and went for 2nd-hottest (who also had a really nice scarf and Love in the Time of Cholera in his bag), looked at the course listings together and decided to take another class together next week and get a drink afterward.

Now it's been three weeks; you've been on … Read More