We asked the top love experts to give the final word on the most-asked relationship and dating questions. In this episode of "The Final Word," we asked them what qualifications should determine if a person is "The One." They offered some surprising insight into this common question.
When it came to dating, my parents had two rules. The first involved age—no going on dates until I turned 16. The second was about sex—no boys allowed in my bedroom. Those two rules were easy to abide by. Dating prospects didn’t come around until college. So did a third (and final) parental limitation on dating. “Don’t come home with a black boyfriend,” my dad said in a raspy whisper as he pointed one finger unintentionally at my heart and gestured towards my co-ed dorm.
When I lost my job, the last thing I needed was a blank social calendar and empty bed. There's only so much disappointment one girl can take. This modern-day Dorothy wanted to click her heels and have the perfect profession and pillow pal land right into her lap. Was that too much to ask? Maybe not. Nicole Williams says you can snag both with the same advice. In her newest book, Girl on Top, Williams suggests the tactics used to land a man can also be applied effectively in the office. Can classic dating rules help you climb the career ladder? After all, the game's the same, right?
Without clear dating rules, it's tough to tell when love is real...or one-way.
Is the word "cougar" too derogatory to keep using? What happens when we throw out the dating rules? Sometimes brides get drunk and wake up in a crate of vodka. Some lube news (finally). Some women think you should have to change your name once married. The cascading effect of talking sexy on Saudi TV is felt by a local station. Some men prefer to marry pillows, get over it.
Remember when dating simply meant a guy asking out a girl? Maybe he would call her up, maybe he'd do it face to face. Either way, the options were limited, the results easy to decipher. Even with this simplicity guys and gals everywhere still managed to lose at the game of dating a fair amount. Now with email, instant message, text, Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and their brethren at our disposal, we have found plenty of new ways to communicate and even more ways to mess it up. Where there's a new technology, there's a potential relationship dissolving because of its (mis)use.
While scouring the web for the latest in dating advice we were lured into CNN's roundup of dating do's and don'ts informed by three matchmakers. In reading through the article we discovered that quite possibly, according to this list, we rank among the worst daters of the land. Here's why.
When it comes to dating, there are so many rules. Rules, rules, rules. You can't call someone the day after you get her number. You're not supposed to wear a T-shirt with holes in it to your new flame's swanky birthday dinner. When someone says, "call me back—if you want to," the day after you have a "talk" about not "calling enough," maybe you should just call her back, even if you don't want to. If I just had a motorcycle and a leather jacket, I think things would be a whole lot easier. Those are rebel tip-offs. With a leather jacket, people know what kind of bad mamma jamma they are dealing with. And if, in your leather jacket, you wrote a poem about a girl, gave it to her, and then rode off on your motorcycle, she would be like, "Wow, he's so sexy," instead of being like, "Wow, ew." That's why I'm going to start smoking Rebel brand cigarettes. Maybe I should just get a pet snake or an electric guitar, too. Then they'll understand that rules don't apply to me.
With an endless array of clothing options—never mind 'moods': Geek Chic, Sporty Chick, Girl Next Door, Fashionista—figuring out what to wear on a date may be the second most important decision you make before you walk out the door. The first? What not to wear. While personal style is, well, personal, there are certain universal rules to follow when picking out date duds, regardless of the man, the plan or the time of day. Commit them to memory, and start every date on the right (tastefully heeled) foot.