The date is over, now the hard part begins. What to do in the first few days that follow.
And you thought the pre-date anxiety was the hardest part? Think again. Any serial dater knows the most infuriating time in the early stages of a relationship is the 24–48 hours that follow the first date. When's he going to call? Should you call him? What's an appropriate amount of time to wait? Here are some guidelines to keep in mind:
Is chivalry dead? Or has it just changed shape? One man weights in.
Is chivalry dead? Or has it just changed shape? One man weights in. "When I'm feeling jaded I can't help but agree with Dave Chappelle's assessment that chivalry is dead—and women killed it. Don't get me wrong, I honestly enjoy opening the door, picking up the check and planning dates (OK, planning dates can get a little old). But what really makes me nervous are all of the obscure rules, most of which seem a little antiquated to me."
A review of Rachel Greenwald's "Why He Didn't Call You Back."
Ever gone on a date with a guy, expected to hear from him but, for reasons you don't understand, he never calls you back? We're guessing the answer is yes. Author, matchmaker and dating coach Rachel Greenwald knows a thing or two about this subject. She asked 1,000 men why they didn't call women back, and the results are in her book, conveniently titled, "Why He Didn't Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They REALLY Thought About You After Your Date." The book contains actionable advice about how to ace a first date.
Dating expert Rachel Greenwald, author of "Why He Didn't Call You Back," discusses dating etiquette.
Dating expert Rachel Greenwald, author of Why He Didn't Call You Back, talks about dating etiquette, first date tips and how to make sure you get a second date. "To me a successful first or second date is simply an invitation to go out again. You can't really get to know who the person is deep down until you spend more time with them, so the lack of a follow-up date invitation means that someone has quickly stereotyped you."
One spurned guy offers some not-so-subtle pointers.
One man reveals some useful second-date advice and calls girls out on their bad behavior: "Look, it’s only fair that if we’re feigning interest in your charming, if rambling, monologues about shoes, celebrity gossip, and that new woman at work who eats nothing but cashews and is always wearing something low cut AND SHE’S NOT EVEN WORKING JUST POKING PEOPLE ON FACEBOOK ALL DAY, then you can ask us questions about what we’re watching, listening to, thinking about. Would it hurt you to ask us about our NCAA brackets? No."
It turns out there are reasons we do that faux grab for our wallet.
Who pays on a first date? Even in 2008, it's a loaded issue—and not in the sense of whether the guy you're out with is or isn't. Even among experienced daters, deciding who should pick up the check stirs up complicated emotions.In the video above, Tango asked a few ordinary civilians—and recently ELLE/MSNBC.com did too, in the form of their sex and money survey. 74,000 respondees, and still no definitive answer. But according to Piper Weiss, in today's Daily News, a few interesting themes did emerge.
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Tango suggests some conversation topics to make your first date a little less awkward. Such as...Sports: What's his favorite hometown team?
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