Should You Keep Your Clothes On Or Off?
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Should You Keep Your Clothes On Or Off?

When I turned 40, I was no longer willing to settle for just anyone.  I had tried this many times before and knew it didn’t work.  I wanted to find the love of my life, the last man I would ever date, the one who would be with me for the rest of my days. For this to happen, I had to make some changes.  First and foremost, no jumping into bed with anyone I was dating—and this meant ANYONE.  In the past, I had my share of casual sex.  I don’t regret that I was sometimes naughty.  It was a lot of fun, but it never got me wh

3 Common Misconceptions About Dating and What to Do About Them
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3 Common Misconceptions About Dating and What to Do About Them

1.  I shouldn’t have to date.   Many people believe that falling in love should happen organically.  I agree.  But for that to happen, you need to increase your exposure to other single people, especially as you get older.  That’s why you need to date.  Otherwise, how are you going to meet this person?  But there is another, even more important reason to date.  Let’s face it.  Men and women are really different.  Successful relationships occur when two people can come together and embrace those diff

Single This Holiday Season? Here's Ho Ho Hope To Find Love
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Single This Holiday Season? Here's Ho Ho Hope To Find Love

For some single women, the holiday season is the absolute worst time of year. Answering awkward questions from nosey relatives. Going to parties and functions alone. Not having someone to kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve. Another year has passed and you didn't find love. I was still single at 40. I vividly remember the sadness, loneliness and disappointment. Yet, this is supposed to be the season of hope and a time when people renew their belief in miracles. A time when:

Dating Multiple People: Advice From a Dating Coach
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Dating Multiple People: Advice From a Dating Coach

Dear Coach Steph, I was dating this guy for 6 months, and everything was going great. But, we never said that we were exclusive, so, I started seeing someone else. Anyway, now I am confused.  I still like the first guy more, but he found out that I was seeing someone and we had a big fight.  I told him that I didn’t care what he thought about me seeing the other guy…but I lied.  I really wanted him to say that he wanted to be with me, but I was too scared to say that,

The Thanksgiving Recipe For Dating Success [EXPERT]
Do you feel like a turkey?
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The Thanksgiving Recipe For Dating Success

Ahhh ... November. Are you eating pumpkin pie and feeling like a turkey because you're single? Well, there are a hundred ways to cook, stuff, bake, slow roast, dry rub, fry, and barbecue a turkey — and your dating life — over the holidays. Don't over stuff yourself with two helpings of buttery sweet potatoes, green beans cooked with bacon, chocolate cake, cookies, seven layer salad, and mashed potatoes just because you're single.

6 Fatal Dating Mistakes
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6 Fatal Dating Mistakes

“Why does dating have to be so hard?” That is the question that most of my clients always seem to ask during our initial consultation process.  Nobody really teaches us how to date. Most of us learn by years of trial and error, some of us learn by observing and others are still in the process of trying to figure out what works for them. They say hind sight is 20/20 but even then, sometimes we find ourselves getting caught up in some of these infamous dating traps that keep us on our search for finding “The One.”  

HOW TO MAKE A LASTING IMPRESSION ON A FIRST DATE
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HOW TO MAKE A LASTING IMPRESSION ON A FIRST DATE

When we go out on a first date, we’re all hoping to experience that instant spark, the kind that makes our hearts pound, takes our breath away, and causes us to feel as giddy as teenagers.  Everyone knows that this is the way all great romances start, right?  Wrong.   While physical attraction is an essential part of a romantic relationship, we tend to place way too much importance on it, overlooking another equally or even more important ingredient: emotional attr

An Interview with Spencer Burnett, Sex and Seduction Guru
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An Interview with Spencer Burnett, Sex and Seduction Guru

It was 8:15am on a recent Thursday morning, and the words “pussy” and “dick” had already been used more than a a half a dozen times…and my phone conversation was just getting started. Good morning, indeed. No, I hadn’t resorted to calling an illicit phone sex line. Instead, on the other end of the phone was Kevin, the man behind Spencer Burnett, Chicago’s very own dating, sex, and pickup guru.

Dating After Divorce? 3 Pitfalls To Avoid [EXPERT]
Got baggage? No problem!
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Dating After Divorce? 3 Pitfalls To Avoid

Whether you've already started dating after divorce, or you're about to take the plunge, chances are good you're going to be tempted to give in to three behaviors that will sabotage either your ability to move on from your marriage, or seriously reduce the chance you'll find a wonderful new man. Here are three post-divorce dating dangers and how you can avoid them.

Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It [EXPERT]
Think before you text!
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Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend. Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. "Are you free tonight?" he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, "Yes". You go out and have another great date. Then, you don't hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can't take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can't stand this waiting game.

How Love Can Take You By Surprise
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How Love Can Take You By Surprise

So, what do wild parrots and dating have to do with one another?  I am going to tell you.  But first, in case you’re not from around here, it is useful to know that all over California there are flocks of wild parrots. They’re not native to the area, so dozens or even hundreds of birds must have either escaped or were released into the wild. When you live here, every once in awhile, you will stop and say, “Look!  There go the wild parrots!”