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DATING AGAIN; STARTING OVER; SCARED
Dear Nina: I just read Internet Dating for the Savvy Single – AWESOME. Packed with common sense dating advice. I am trying to get back to dating but I am having trouble getting over my last relationship. We met on a dating site and instantly clicked – rare. We had an eight month relationship which was fantastic. I got a STD test and found out I have HSV-1.
Okay, so you’ve read my article on when to start dating again after a break up or divorce and you’re confident that you’re 100% ready to get back out there. Congratulations! But wait – before you sign up for Match.com and start winking at people, let’s make sure you’re really prepared by going over the behaviors that can make or break a first date. If you haven’t dated in a while, reviewing this list will definitely help you get to the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th date – and maybe even to “I do”.
After a particularly painful break up or divorce, it’s crucial that you take the time to grieve and heal from the hurt. You have to learn to accept the separation and work on yourself, so when you DO reenter the dating world, you do so in a positive and constructive way, unburdened by any past baggage and poised to build a relationship that will withstand the test of time.
As much as I enjoy the enormously busy season from Halloween through New Year's, I'm relieved just as equally that it's over. I managed to make it through constructing another homemade costume that kept me up more hours than I can recall. I survived a massive food overhaul that provided enough leftovers to stockpile the fridge for at least a week thereafter. My finances were pinched yet wisely managed when it came down to the annual gift purchasing, wrapping, and eventual dispersing among friends and family.
I started out writing a list of New Year's Resolutions to recommend for this post – a collection of a few that I had made myself over the years. As I reviewed the list I started crossing some off, and then I started combining the similar ones. I soon realized it really all came down to one single, simple resolution. Just one simple goal to strive for this coming year (which is so much easier because it’s hard enough to keep just one resolution!). In 2013, this will become our mantra: Refuse to Settle for Anything Less Than You Deserve. &
The New Year is right around the corner and with that comes the opportunity for you to create some big changes in your life. Let’s face it, most of us make all sorts of resolutions when the New Year rolls around and most times, they never really stick. As Chicago’s resident gay dating coach, this time of year is always fairly busy for me because I have guys who really want to make changes towards finding their ultimate happiness.
So, you are dating a guy, and it's the crucial first few weeks. You really like this guy, and you are wondering what you can do (or avoid doing) to keep this relationship going and not scare him away. The truth is there are certain things that women can do that will scare men away every single time. Don't sabotage a potentially great relationship that could have gone somewhere by scaring a man off right at the beginning.
Love is a tricky thing. It can change you in a good way and a bad way. When you have had failed relationships more than successful ones, it is easy to close yourself off even when someone who enters your life who would be perfect for you. I have never truly been in love. In the past I thought I was in love twice, but now that I revisit those memories and relationships I realize that those weren't true love. They were faux relationships.
Today I Choose to sit quietly in the sun and watch copper winged dragonflies I Choose to be still and listen I Choose to be open to whatever presents itself I Choose to be kind and refrain from judgement of others I Choose to drink copious amounts of tea I Choose to purge my thoughts and feelings and writewritewrite until there is nothing left inside to come out
"All discarded lovers should be given a second chance... just with someone new." - Mae West As a divorce coach, I often watch my clients jump from the hot bed of separation and divorce right into another disastrous relationship. When we lose our lovers through a divorce, it is often the case that we run right into dating as a way to build our self-confidence and fill the void within our hearts. But are we ready? Really ready? Or are we setting ourselves up for another heartache?
After getting out of a relationship, sometimes the thought of getting back into a relationship remains just that, a thought. We can become immobilized with indecision, because we fear that we’ll make a character mistake again, or that we won’t listen and honor the nudges from our intuition telling us if she or he’s good for us or not. So how do we discern which little voice in our head is our intuition speaking, and which voices are just that—noises of self-loathing, self-derision, self-denial, self-absorption, and self-esteem?