In Part 1 of this article, we looked at the biggest dating mistake women make and how to feel more comfortable in social situations. In today’s Part II, Dating & Relationship Coach, Jeremi McManus, continues to share advice and tips from his years of experience with client. Let’s jump right in:
DATING ADVICE FOR WOMEN
[Interview by Vitra Singh for Diva Gossip] Doing dating right can be a challenge for men and women who just want to meet “the right one.” Diving in haphazardly without stopping to think about what you are looking for, qualities that are essential, and how to bring up some tough talk can hurt more than help.
High school was an absolute blast. I grew up in a 300-year-old community situated at the foothills of the Berkshire Mountains and an hour outside of Manhattan. Ridgefield, Conn., a town of roughly 25,000, was a fantastic place to grow up and an interesting place to learn about love. Since online dating wasn't as prevelant back then as it is today, there isn’t much to report on that front until my freshman year. Here's a year-by-year rundown of what high school taught me about dating.
The following is part of an excerpt from the new book, You Lost him at Hello: From dating to “I Do” – secret strategies from one of America’s top dating coaches (HCI, 2013), by Jess McCann
So I’ve been wondering for the last ten years on what that magical thing is that makes for a good relationship. Not the kind of stuff that you need to keep a relationship healthy and growing--don’t worry, that post is coming--but what you need at the outset.
Yes. It is one of the first words we ever say and it only seems to get more difficult to say as time passes. In fact, as a child, we say "Yes" to pretty much anything. Yes to checking out the pool before we know how to swim, yes to sharing an ice cream cone with the dog, yes to chasing the Nerf ball (do they still make those?) into I-85. We are open to any possibility, and naturally possess what I like to call the “yes stance.”
Aright fellas, wanting to land that first date and not sure where to begin? You’re at the right place, but you need to throw something out first. No really. If you want that date you really have to. Toss out the “No-that’s-not-gonna-works.” Seriously. I’ve done the research, formal and informal, and helped plenty of men get that date, and then several more–in fact, that’s exactly why I created SF Relationship Coaching. So here are your tools.
Women often complain that it's hard to get a man to talk. Or, when they do sit down and talk with a man, that he gets resistant or argumentative, doesn't tell the full truth or just tells her whatever he thinks she wants to hear. Why does he do this? Often, it's because he's had bad experiences talking with you or other women and has developed some defense mechanisms to avoid further punishment.
And then you blink, and you are in our 50s. You finally get to start living some of your dreams instead of just planning them. All your experiences before then — the joyful, educational and even the painful — prepared your for creating a delicious life in the years ahead — a life that most definitely includes grownup love.
When a man whistles at you, how does that make you feel? According to the Daily Mail, an old-fashioned wolf whistle encourages 38 percent of women to stick to their diets and 54 percent of those asked admitted they loved receiving one. Clearly many women think it's flattering.
It’s true that guys normally consider first impressions solely upon the looks of the female. However, women are equally guilty. Can you honestly say that you would want to be approached by the least attractive guy in the room? This type of behavior can be very detrimental when it comes to seducing a guy. At the end of the day, guys like to be appreciated for who they are and not what they look like; just as you do.
Once you’ve done your research about how to get a guy, it’s common to want to put all that you’ve learned in action. However, you must be careful! Below are three types of guys that you should stay clear of while in the dating scene. Sadly, these types of men are often glamorized; making them seem like viable options, but they should be avoided.
Many of my dating coaching clients have questions about what to ask during the first phone call. They want to know how to quickly weed men out. Understandably, most busy midlife women say they don't have time to waste on the wrong men. What I have found over the past 10 years as a dating coach, and from dating to find my own husband, this can be trickier than you think. If you mess up the first phone call, you could end up with few first dates and keep yourself single.
It's impossible to date in the 21st century without, at some point, dating someone who’s divorced. Fortunately, most divorced singles have as many pros as they do cons. However, when it comes to dating divorced men, some are more ready to date than others. If you meet a cute divorced guy, be on the lookout for the following Red Flags: Red Flag #1: His Divorce is Recent