If you're an Intellectual Badass (IB), you're bound to date people who aren't as smart as you. Either you'll know more about your specific area of expertise, or you'll outsmart them across the board.
DATING ADVICE AND TIPS
For anyone new to the "80/20 rule for relationships," it's the theory that says, in a fairly healthy relationship, you only get 80 percent of what you want. Maybe your partner isn't a triathlete or great at sharing his feelings, but it's OK, because the 80 percent you do get is really good. The other part of the equation says that it’s the endless search for that missing 20 percent you'd hoped for in your mate that leads people to cheat.
You went out, met a guy, but instead of getting your number, he threw you a curve ball and got yours. Now what? Whenever possible, you should avoid being the first one to make contact, whether by text or any other modern-day device. It is important to let the guy make the first move, just to make sure that he is genuinely interested in you.
The most couple-friendly time of year is upon us and so it is easy to fall victim to your inner Scrooge if you are single. Even the mall is seemingly no longer for all of us — couples strolling hand in hand, families taking their young children to see Santa and beaming newlyweds searching for the perfect gift. It is almost enough to make me want to say inside for the entire month of December, watching reruns of Sex and the City with a pint of ice cream.
About a decade ago, nobody would come out to openly admit that he/she is into online dating for fear that aspersions are casted on one’s characters. The entire thing was kept under wraps because it was thought of as a domain reserved only for the shy, the hopeless, and the socially inept. Time changed; the Internet bred so many online dating sites that evolved a totally whole new set of culture, norms, and etiquette of hooking up.
Is your relationship compass off? Do you find yourself attracting the wrong type of guy over and over again? If this sounds familiar, then your relationship compass might be in need of a calibration. Just as a compass points North due to the internal magnet that aligns itself to the natural magnetic field of the earth, your relationship compass works off of magnetic attraction – and I know you know what I mean here. You are just magnetically drawn to him – the way he looks at you, the way he talks, the way he moves.
Dating can be a great experience for many but potentially difficult for others. Here’s three key things that you need to increase your chances of being successful in the dating world. 1. Healthy Levels of Self Esteem
Red flags: those signs you can spot so easily in your best girlfriend’s relationship are often difficult to recognize in your own. It’s those subtle, yet you-know-something’s-not-right feelings that are rationalized away which creates obstacles to lasting love. As a relationship coach, I hear stories from women who want to believe they are somehow overreacting to uneasy vibes in a relationship. Most of the time, they describe cautionary cues pointing to what they are trying to hide from themselves: the end of the dream of lasting love with that person.
Preparation Before going out on your first date you should write down a few questions you could ask your date in case the conversation will get stuck. People who go often on dates usually know by heart their list of questions and they draw them out at the correct moment in great skill. You might need to get some practice, but thereís no better time to start practicing than today! Here are some first date questions: 1. What do you do for a living? 2. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Are you close to each other?
Love is a tricky thing. It can change you in a good way and a bad way. When you have had failed relationships more than successful ones, it is easy to close yourself off even when someone who enters your life who would be perfect for you. I have never truly been in love. In the past I thought I was in love twice, but now that I revisit those memories and relationships I realize that those weren't true love. They were faux relationships.
I know how hard it can be to find love with a good man. I understand when women complain to me that the men out there are terrible. All the good ones are taken. And what's left are scary monsters like Frankenstein – OK I've got Halloween on my mind.
Since I started Bartender…Man Straight Up!, I’ve gotten so many wonderful tips for grabbing a guy’s attention and starting up a conversation. But I think some of the most valuable advice pertains to what not to do, so make sure you don’t blow your chances with the cute guy across the bar with one of these no-nos.