If you’re over 50 and find yourself single and frustrated with a lack of available mates, you’re not alone. According to U.S. Census data, almost 30 percent of the 78 million baby boomers are single. And, if you’re like most of them, you probably struggle with the process of meeting other singles who share your interests. This can be a huge loss for everyone involved, says life coach Barbara Singer, because women in particular are just gearing up for life in their 50s.
Ready for what? Ready to come? Ready to commit? Ready to go out? Okay, so my mind goes first to sex, but really, with a question like this, it doesn’t matter the scenario. The issue is in how the question is phrased. “She’s not ready.” That is not a complete sentence and lacks any context. Without context, there is no understanding. Communication is the issue. Let’s start backwards: Not ready to go out? By this, I mean you’ve said you’d be ready at 7:30 p.m.
When my last relationship broke up, I had a chance to talk to my ex post-mortem and ask him how he was feeling. Now, I’ll be honest, I was hoping for something along the lines of “I’m heartbroken and I want you back!” Instead, what I got was an expression of relief: he told me he felt glad to be “free” of my “expectations” for him. That he couldn’t make me happy, so he was glad not to have to try anymore. Great. Thanks, Ex-BF.
Out there in the big world of dating, every single wants supreme confidence – confidence in themselves, confidence in who they want to attract, confidence in how to act on the first few nerve wracking dates, confidence that they will have fun no matter what, confidence enough to be happy without being in a relationship. How do we get to this point of supreme dating confidence? Well, I’ve put together three essential tips to help you:
Why do women think its okay to talk to a man any way they want to, and still expect men to give them respect? Are you kidding? Ladies, getting respect starts with you taking responsibility for any action, known or unknown to you, that might have caused a rift in your relationship, including but not limited to the way you speak to the Man of Your Dreams (MOYD).
No matter where you are in life the prospect of dating can be filled with anxiety. If you haven't dated for any length of time it can seem even scarier. After the end of a long-term relationship, sometimes there can be a lot of pressure to go out and date and find that new "plus one." Before you rush out the door, take a moment to read through these tips. They should help you turn a scary experience into one that you can enjoy.
I’ve been in many relationships, from long-term to casual, and in all of them, feelings are inevitable. If you’re lucky, you get to experience love. Some are fearful of falling in love because they’re afraid they’ll get hurt. But I once heard someone say, “You can rise in love.” The term “rise” means growing and elevating to a healthy level, as opposed to "fall in love," which implies pain.
An ex once told me that “women are complicated creatures.” At the time, I disregarded this as banter during an argument, but in retrospect, he was right. We are quite complicated. We think about every little detail and are very emotional. Overall, we want things to go perfectly, and that’s where it starts to go downhill for us. As children, we dream of the perfect job, wedding and family. We spend our lives searching for perfection around every corner, especially when it comes to men. We all have our dream relationship in our minds.
The idea of a man needing to bring in a bigger income originates from his own idea of what a provider needs to do. In the days prior to women in the workforce, a man was responsible for providing for his family all by himself. Today, women are expected to not only assume the duties of wife and mother but to help bear the financial burden as well. They have been taught to work harder than ever before because of the way the working world sometimes looks down upon them.
If relationships are so difficult, divorce is catastrophic, and the odds of staying together are so bad, why do we continue to get married or enter into long-term relationships? The fact is, it is our biological imperative. Even well past our child bearing years, mother-nature gave us the natural instinct to enter into relationships. It's the way we are wired.
There comes a time in everyone's life when something happens that causes you to re-evaluate the path you're on. A crisis of sorts, to set a change in motion to lead you to a different path, to get you to stop and take notice of what is and isn't working. This turning point will look different for everyone, but the point is to make whatever has happened in your life worth it, worth the pain that you went through. Don't let the experience that brought you here today be wasted. Use it as a springboard for the change that you know you need.
To help you navigate even the most awkward moments, we've compiled our 40 best dating tips--some new, some old--given to us by experts, moms, women like you, and even Justin Timberlake. 1. DON'T look for perfection. Encouraging you to settle isn't our style, but separating your desires from your deal-breakers can give your love life a major upgrade.
What is "husband material" anyway? If you are single and looking for Mr. Right, this question has probably crossed your mind more than a few times. If you are a romantic, you probably think the sparks and fireworks you feel every time you are together will let you know. If you're more pragmatic, you likely have a list of attributes you want, and you dismiss men who don't live up to those expectations. Both of these approaches require modification to accommodate real human beings with strengths and weaknesses.
MINIMUM STANDARDS A Firewall Against Future Heartache and Disappointment You have dated Henry for three weeks. What’s amazing is that you like him! Hooray!! These days, in the dating world, wanting to see someone for a second date is almost a miracle. Three dates and you’re hopeful that something substantial might develop.
Is it just me, or has it become almost cool to be nerdy now? Or do you still friend zone them now (seriously go read this link!) In a complete switch around from my day at school, it is now cool to wear glasses (in fact, the bigger the better), be a few decades behind in the fashion department, and be into obscure shows and music. Though people that exhibit those traits do not always have the highest of IQs.
I’m often surprised by the questions guys ask me on a first date. Some questions are too personal, and some questions seem to better fit a census than a date. To begin to get to know her without making her feel judged or surveyed, ask her about things she likes. Ask her how she likes to spend her time, and talk more about your common interests. But be sure to avoid asking her the following 5 types of questions, as they’ll likely kill your chances for a second date.
Posting revealing pics We checked with some of our favorite male counterparts to find out their biggest pet peeves about women when it comes to online dating, and we had to agree – sometimes we aren’t exactly putting our best foot forward. Here’s what we’re doing entirely wrong and how to fix it. -- By Gina Cohen