You are out with your friends and you meet a guy and of course you give him your phone number and he gives you his. Now, with this day and age of texting, LinkedIn, and Facebook it is hard to imagine a guy taking more than a day to contact you, but be patient! Do not under any circumstances contact him FIRST! Men like to have the upper hand no matter what the relationship books tells you on how it's ok for women to contact men don't do it!
by Julie Robinson 1985 Not everyone gets to be prom queen. Now that I’m in my 40’s it seems like an even sillier distinction than it did when I was in high school. From what I’ve heard my little brother’s geeky friend voted for me. I guess I had that going. I also had my dear old dad as my date my junior year.
I was mid-air in the middle of a cavern underneath the ground that is bigger than the Statue of Liberty (165 feet tall). Stalactites and stalagmites surrounded me, lit up by strategically placed lights in an otherwise dark space. Hanging by what seemed a thread (but was really a solid harness, ropes, and carabiners), I was sweating in the cool and damp cave.
Let’s face it, the taboo surrounding online dating has changed a lot in the last few years. It’s no longer considered weird to meet singles or find ‘the one’ online. In fact most people searching for love now use some form of online tool to aid that search. Isn’t technology great?
A friend has been seeing this guy off and on for a few months and he is a great guy, they have a lot in common and things are comfortable and easy but does she feel the spark? No. So when you are in a relationship with someone and everything is going great, but there are no sparks or pull to that person what do you do?
You say you want your soulmate. You say it’s time. You say you’re ready. But what if your soulmate showed up in 5 minutes from now with no warning? What if he just knocked on your door? Would you be ready for him? Or would you tell him to come back later, because you need to lose that last 10 pounds, or to wait until you get your business more successful… or to buy your own home first??
Stand by the MOYD–show yourself approved and leave no doubts that you are the one. When your man, or prospective man, is down on his luck, this is an opportune time to strike; to have his back and show him who you really are. Show him what the “S” on your chest stands for.
A man who is a user is truly not interested in you–only what you can offer. All his initial questions relate to your job, career and income status. Do you have a car? What kind of car is it? What year, make and model? Do you have kids? Who lives with you? These are all probing questions a man with a user mentality will ask, in order to see where he can fit in and take advantage of you.
Do you remember in grade school when our coaches would teach us about our competition? Sometimes we would watch videos, or even go to one of their games… all to do what exactly? Gain an edge. Recently, one of my girlfriends asked me if I knew what I was up against in the dating world, and honestly I couldn’t give her a solid answer because all I had were assumptions gained from the messages I received from users on the dating websites. Some examples are as follows:
Men can be so funny or sometimes maybe they just have adult deficit disorder, but which ever the case maybe keep the women that you are seeing straight please! I have seen so many women get their hearts broken, because men have gotten caught playing the field and they had no idea. Of course, it is a good thing they found out sooner rather than later when they have already walked down the aisle.
So you've met this great man who seems like a lot of fun, but you can’t help having doubts. "God, I hope that this guy is a man and not the dreaded man-boy," you think to yourself. You know how man-boys are. They'ree the guys who show up on dates, dressed a little on the boyish side. Maybe he wore jeans that were a tad outdated. Maybe he sported a pair of running shoes on his feet. Or perhaps he actually wore a ball cap on a lunch date.
I know there is no specific code for this and some women's intuition is better than others, but I am going to give some tips. In the past it was taboo for women to approach men while they are out with their girls. But now more often than not it seems women have been mustering up their confidence to talk to a guy they find attractive. So, how do you know when it's time to walk away? Well, if he is not giving you eye contact and looking around is one good sign.
So, what is a doormat anyway? A doormat is a woman who bends over backwards to please her man, a woman who will do whatever it takes to try to make her man happy, no matter how badly he treats her. Here are ten red flags that you're being used as a doormat in your relationships.
We have all dealt with them and sometimes you have even been called one... a player. In my dating life I have been called more often than not an unemotional girl or a player. Yet at 29 I am starting to think maybe I am not a player per say. Maybe I just don't feel for many people or I only feel for the one in a million.