Figuring out how to not spend money on date night and still have tons of fun.
You know you might be a candidate for Dating A Banker Anonymous if you've suffered any of the following: a. Your Bergdorf's allowance has been halved. b. Bottle service has all but disappeared from your life. c. You depend on your boyfriend for the above indulgences. Such is the premise of the support group and blog that two ex-girlfriends of Wall Street types started after the market—and then their relationships—plunged. When they noticed other women complaining about the enhanced thriftiness, neediness and emotional instability of their banker boyfriends, they decided the girlfriends (dare we call them gold diggers?) needed some newfound support of their own. At informal meetings over cocktails, groups of twentysomething women gather to lament their downtrodden or unemployed I-banking men.
When do you tell your date that you're in an open relationship? Before you start dating? Then you might scare people away. But if you tell them afterwards they may feel that you've mislead them. This week's New York Times Modern Love essayist wasn't too pleased when, before her second date with a man she calls The Engineer, her new date told her that he had another girlfriend.
Greatboyfriends.com lets your friends or family spread the good word about you, but you ultimately get to choose whom to pursue or date. You sister, best friend, ex or mother creates a profile for you, of course highlighting all the good points you might be too humble to share. Men are also rated on several specific traits, including the aforementioned humility, earning potential, looks and desire to commit. The reason this makes for great online dating is twofold: chances are a man's sister is not going to place her mid-40s brother in the late 20s category, as men might be tempted to do on their own; plus, you get an accurate, if overly laudatory, picture of what makes these guys tick. If he's a momma's boy, you'll know right away from the fact that his mother has created his profile (and, yes, these profiles exist).
Besides a lucky few who've never suffered a breakup, most of us know the boiling anger/sadness/frustration that boils up during and after a breakup. Out of this emotional volcano spews a molten mess of post-breakup correspondence most of us would rather forget we ever wrote. Thanks to two former New York City roommates, our attempts to clarify, expand upon or close the book after a split can now be forever recorded on their blog, Just Been Dumped. The founders go by Jules and Mer, and ask to remain anonymous to protect the identities of the friends and strangers who have submitted the material for public consumption. Whether recently dumped or not, the e-mails (and IM conversations) on the four-month old site are a voyeuristic and potentially cathartic treat.
Every morning we get up and put on clothing. So what makes figuring out what to wear on a date—especially a first date—so difficult? When meeting someone we (might) want to kiss later, picking an outfit becomes less about promoting modesty and protecting from the elements and more about the message we want to convey: alluring but not easy, smart but not stuffy, playful but not a lunatic. That's a lot of pressure. But in those frantic pre-date moments when clothing is piling up and the minutes are ticking down, go for the always-alluring, fail-safe staple guaranteed to prevent a stripes-with-plaid-with-polka-dots catastrophe: The Dress.
Thinking of lining up a date on the Internet? With more than 800 dating sites online, choosing a dating service has become as complicated as choosing a mate. This primer will give you pros and cons of sites large and small, so you can minimize your hassle and maximize your chances of finding love online.